I've already identified anticipation of needs and monitoring of progress as facets of ownership (of an area of work.) So, how does ownership *feel*? https://twitter.com/fvathynevgl/status/1388061863729057797

Both anticipation and monitoring are ongoing. You return to what you own regularly to check its state. It can mean time set aside for a review, but it might just be that it's something that comes to your mind regularly. https://twitter.com/fvathynevgl/status/1388242703834624004

In order to think back to it regularly in a positive way (i.e. not worry/rumination), you have to find the thing somewhat interesting and with some potential.

Interest makes it notice-worthy (salient).

Potential means that there is a reason to think about its future.

Failure state prevention is also important. Failure causes an owner to think "how could I set things up to prevent this in future?" (rather than think "crisis solved" and shrug.) This indicates a motivation other than pain-avoidance. Perhaps protectiveness?

Let me add some examples to illustrate each feeling or attitude. These may not work for you directly, in which case I would appreciate you adding further examples in comments!

Ex. 1: I've run out of TP. Oh no! I find a way to deal with it in the moment. If I own the household, I will think: what can I do to prevent this?

Options:

- schedule a regular check for missing supplies
- put a card on top of the last roll in storage: "BUY MORE NOW"
- etc

Ex. 2: I bought a plant. Then it died. Oh no! What happened? Perhaps I wasn't interested in it enough to:

- check how dry its soil is, every day
- learn how to adjust the watering schedule based on seasons
- learn about what the changes in its colours meant

Ex. 3: every birthday I get two gift cards, A and B. A goes into my wallet and expires. B card, I spend immediately.

What's the difference? Store B has many things I want (potential), and I keep a wishlist of things to buy with it, up-to-date after many daydreaming sessions.

There is also a feeling of control, or autonomy (thanks @AbstractFairy for this one). You are free to do whatever you like with what you own; you are not working to satisfy demands placed on you by someone else.

Another important one is awareness of constraints and working within them, rather than running into them and frustrating yourself.

Ex. 4: I have 10 quid. There are things I can buy with it (a snack, a day travelcard) and things I can't (a car). What are some things I can spend them on?

(The kind of things you specify depend on your values. For me, it might be "interesting" or "novel".)

(End thread for today. I will come back to ownership of one's life later)