There's something so viscerally uncomfortable about fifteen year olds attempting to tell queer adults how to define themselves & then refusing to accept that historical context is a thing

Btw this isn't me suggesting kids can't have these conversations, or that kids need to "respect their elders" or whatever because fvck that

But you don't get to pretend history started today

Also you don't get to assume that everyone cares about validation as much as you do. Because a lot of us aren't really concerned about validity insofar as it's the end point of discourse

And this is about demanding people not take issue with what you see as valid while shrugging off an entire history of oppression.

Queerness and queer communities are obviously about supporting how you choose to identify but they're also about what comes next

Saying that a statements like "look, historically this term/phrase/identity carries a very specific meaning and though meanings can and do change, it's not as simple as you're suggesting" is some sort of exclusionary absolutism completely disregards the way queer identity works

Anyway I want everyone to be able to figure out a way forward but not at the expense of what came before

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