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I have a range of writing & #communication styles
Outside the ED of hospitalist medicine, when I “talk like a man” - direct, unvarnished truths and or “taking up too much space”, there is pushback, affront. Others have noted men with same style as me are
#WomeninSTEM
#SciComm https://twitter.com/liz_harrison/status/1380970188737220618
Outside the ED of hospitalist medicine, when I “talk like a man” - direct, unvarnished truths and or “taking up too much space”, there is pushback, affront. Others have noted men with same style as me are
#WomeninSTEM
#SciComm https://twitter.com/liz_harrison/status/1380970188737220618
In reality women can’t just email or communicate “like a man” for same results. Society *expects* different communication from women.
I’ve never been an exclamation point person but I use smiley faces
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
#WomenInMedicine https://www.vice.com/en/article/8xyb5v/how-to-write-professional-work-email-women
I’ve never been an exclamation point person but I use smiley faces
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
#WomenInMedicine https://www.vice.com/en/article/8xyb5v/how-to-write-professional-work-email-women
These studies + anecdotal experience:
“women don't negotiate for a very simple reason: they sense—correctly—that it will hurt them if they do... when women *do* negotiate... they end up worse off than if they’d kept their mouths shut”
#womeninSTEM https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/family-friendly/201301/women-dont-negotiate-because-theyre-not-idiots
“women don't negotiate for a very simple reason: they sense—correctly—that it will hurt them if they do... when women *do* negotiate... they end up worse off than if they’d kept their mouths shut”
#womeninSTEM https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/family-friendly/201301/women-dont-negotiate-because-theyre-not-idiots
Women are also overtly shamed with things like “it wouldn’t be fair to give that to you”
fair based on *what* metric or standard?
Even if you are discussing a position unique to you, you are told you can’t have more than those reporting to you
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
fair based on *what* metric or standard?
Even if you are discussing a position unique to you, you are told you can’t have more than those reporting to you
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
I have been told “be sweet”
“Women who assertively pursue their own ambitions..promote their own interests..labeled as bitchy or pushy...their work devalued.. ostracized or excluded from access to important information”
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM https://hbr.org/2003/10/nice-girls-dont-ask
“Women who assertively pursue their own ambitions..promote their own interests..labeled as bitchy or pushy...their work devalued.. ostracized or excluded from access to important information”
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM https://hbr.org/2003/10/nice-girls-dont-ask
Overall my approach now is:
I am who/how I am
people who value results value me
people with values, value me & my values
those wedded to or enforcing misogynistic/sexist social/cultural norms on women will act as above
Yes, I will either leave or be shut out from some rooms
I am who/how I am
people who value results value me
people with values, value me & my values
those wedded to or enforcing misogynistic/sexist social/cultural norms on women will act as above
Yes, I will either leave or be shut out from some rooms
When women are let into rooms, they may lose their #ethics as a result of being in that room
they often feel pressured to conform to the behaviors, made to feel responsible for others and willing to lie for others, especially men
#womeninleadership https://insight.kellogg.northwestern.edu/article/women-ethics-workplace-negotiation
they often feel pressured to conform to the behaviors, made to feel responsible for others and willing to lie for others, especially men
#womeninleadership https://insight.kellogg.northwestern.edu/article/women-ethics-workplace-negotiation
Women are influenced by context - a dark side of the #EQ and #empathy?
compared to rigid ethical backbone
On advocacy, I left spaces of “do whatever it takes”. I have lines I won’t cross regardless of mission
Also, #professionalism is sexist
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
compared to rigid ethical backbone
On advocacy, I left spaces of “do whatever it takes”. I have lines I won’t cross regardless of mission
Also, #professionalism is sexist
#womeninleadership
#womeninSTEM
“fairness” framing used to shame women for even asking (deflecting from saying “no”)
triggers women to resent fellow women who ask
=deep social conditioning from childhood
“both male and female supervisors can have these negative feelings about women” https://www.cnbc.com/2013/11/27/for-women-asking-for-a-raise-is-damned-if-you-do-or-dont.html
triggers women to resent fellow women who ask
=deep social conditioning from childhood
“both male and female supervisors can have these negative feelings about women” https://www.cnbc.com/2013/11/27/for-women-asking-for-a-raise-is-damned-if-you-do-or-dont.html
look at the history of when women allowed
into institutions/workforce
right to vote
brought in to defend status quo using a narrative of “purity“ & “protecting culture“
women who serve men & past are allowed in the room
but serve self: not a good woman
#womeninleadership https://twitter.com/usnehal/status/1378796504664698881
into institutions/workforce
right to vote
brought in to defend status quo using a narrative of “purity“ & “protecting culture“women who serve men & past are allowed in the room
but serve self: not a good woman
#womeninleadership https://twitter.com/usnehal/status/1378796504664698881
despite being shamed by the concept of “fairness”, for asking more than others have
if women do not disrupt status quo, we perpetuate structural inequity & unfairness
Double bind
I wish I had the solution
Am working on it
#womeninleadership
#WomenInSTEM
#WomenInMedicine
if women do not disrupt status quo, we perpetuate structural inequity & unfairness
Double bind
I wish I had the solution
Am working on it
#womeninleadership
#WomenInSTEM
#WomenInMedicine
I have explored a lot of different spaces, interacted with many personalities in real life, academia, virtually
I am constantly learning (including from some very unfortunate situations)
Yes, one can rely on male allies..
But I want to solve this for women to be fully empowered
I am constantly learning (including from some very unfortunate situations)
Yes, one can rely on male allies..
But I want to solve this for women to be fully empowered
there have been notable female whistleblowers
is extremely scary
sometimes requires financial independence to do it
all of us should be willing to be the whistleblower
for the sake of ethics & harm mitigation
& for future women
#womeninleadership https://www.sentinelsource.com/opinion/op-ed/why-women-whistleblowers-matter/article_788cf64a-385f-53d3-8a38-a4c2a4958585.html
is extremely scary
sometimes requires financial independence to do it
all of us should be willing to be the whistleblower
for the sake of ethics & harm mitigation
& for future women
#womeninleadership https://www.sentinelsource.com/opinion/op-ed/why-women-whistleblowers-matter/article_788cf64a-385f-53d3-8a38-a4c2a4958585.html
If analyzing number of exclamation points in an email, how to take on the whole system?
In almost every situation there are multiple things one could report.
This is a perpetual dilemma:
stay & fight?
stay & look away?
report?
leave?
#WomenInLeadership https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2013/12/27/men-more-likely-than-women-to-compromise-values-for-career-success/
In almost every situation there are multiple things one could report.
This is a perpetual dilemma:
stay & fight?
stay & look away?
report?
leave?
#WomenInLeadership https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2013/12/27/men-more-likely-than-women-to-compromise-values-for-career-success/
For #womeninSTEM being more ethical or cautious w/ data reduces productivity or publications. That bolsters the glass ceiling. It puts one in asking or defensive position, which makes one less comfortable speaking up.
https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2017/02/24/study-suggests-women-are-more-ethical-men-science-and-may-hold-them-back
#womeninleadership
#WomenInMedicine
https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2017/02/24/study-suggests-women-are-more-ethical-men-science-and-may-hold-them-back
#womeninleadership
#WomenInMedicine
