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I don’t need to take another test to tell you: my top love language is gifts.
It’s the worst one. People view you as shallow or impossible. They don’t understand it at all. They’re mean about it.
Let’s talk about the Love Language of gifts! A thread!
It’s the worst one. People view you as shallow or impossible. They don’t understand it at all. They’re mean about it.
Let’s talk about the Love Language of gifts! A thread!
People who love gifts, as their language of love, have to endure far more shortage than the other love languages. They don’t get to experience expressions of love every single day the ways someone with words of affirmation or physical touch can.
They don’t usually get it once a
They don’t usually get it once a
week the way someone with quality time or acts of service can.
No, people who understand love through gifts must be camels. We must endure through deserts of love not being expressed. We often wonder if perhaps we are not loved after all.
Gifts is such a difficult one. But. Not
No, people who understand love through gifts must be camels. We must endure through deserts of love not being expressed. We often wonder if perhaps we are not loved after all.
Gifts is such a difficult one. But. Not
impossible.
Please consider that by gifts, here is what is meant: you thought of us specifically and then sacrificed something to accomplish the goal of making us feel thought of very specific to our identity.
Wow! Big concept. What does that...look like? How do you show someone
Please consider that by gifts, here is what is meant: you thought of us specifically and then sacrificed something to accomplish the goal of making us feel thought of very specific to our identity.
Wow! Big concept. What does that...look like? How do you show someone
with gifts that you love them?
-you saw something that made you think of us. This may be as simple as taking a photo and sending it to us when you see something that made you think of us. We want to know what you think about us and when.
-drawing a picture. You took the time
-you saw something that made you think of us. This may be as simple as taking a photo and sending it to us when you see something that made you think of us. We want to know what you think about us and when.
-drawing a picture. You took the time
to consider what kind of picture we would enjoy seeing from you and then you sacrificed your time to draw it for us, and we’re so excited! Now we have a physical representation of the fact that you feel emotions about us! Every time we see it, we will think of you!
-you buy
-you buy
something expensive for us. This is the difficult one that sounds super shallow. But remember what I said about us being camels? If you are the kind of person that does NOT speak gifts as a language naturally, we need some huge gesture from you to be able to physically point at
and say, “My loved one bought me this. They worked hard at their job and then they sacrificed all those hours of their work in order to spend that money ON ME. This cost three hours of their work day, this percent of their salary, and they did it to show me they love me! I am
more important to them than their time, more important to them than anything they needed this money for! They gave that up FOR ME because they love me THAT MUCH!”
-flowers. Available for fairly cheap, a fresh bunch of flowers is a way to say to your gift-loving S.O. “These
-flowers. Available for fairly cheap, a fresh bunch of flowers is a way to say to your gift-loving S.O. “These
beautiful things made me think of how you make my world beautiful. And I wanted to make your world beautiful, too.”
-handwriting a birthday card or giving a birthday gift. Please, please, for the love of God: buy or make us a birthday gift. We’re adults but PLEASE. We feel
-handwriting a birthday card or giving a birthday gift. Please, please, for the love of God: buy or make us a birthday gift. We’re adults but PLEASE. We feel
loved when we have a physical symbol of that love to look back upon. Every time we look at it, we remember, “This is from my roommate. He loves me.” And “This is from my girlfriend, who loves me.” It feels like a fun, special secret we both share. Even better is how we think of
you constantly and think of all you mean to us whenever we see that symbol of love.
-having gifts as your love language is NOT about acquiring objects. While we will be thrilled to receive random gifts from casual friends, it’s distressing to us to receive a very wrong
-having gifts as your love language is NOT about acquiring objects. While we will be thrilled to receive random gifts from casual friends, it’s distressing to us to receive a very wrong
gift from someone who should really know us better. It hurts to realize you put no thought into your gift or to realize you didn’t even try
-don’t call us shallow. The other gifts don’t get called shallow for having needs. Ours is, remember, about having physical proof of your
-don’t call us shallow. The other gifts don’t get called shallow for having needs. Ours is, remember, about having physical proof of your
emotional presence in our life so that we can think of you when you’re not physically present and know you’re thinking of us, too
-price doesn’t actually matter, but it depends on how much you tend to spend on others in our friend group. Did Jessie buy Tyler something that was
-price doesn’t actually matter, but it depends on how much you tend to spend on others in our friend group. Did Jessie buy Tyler something that was
$60 and then spend just $7 buying me a beer? Does she not like me as much?
-never EVER never combine our birthday and winter holiday gifts EVER!!! It makes us feel like an inconvenience to you, like you HAVE to say you love us and don’t WANT to say it. The ONLY time this is
-never EVER never combine our birthday and winter holiday gifts EVER!!! It makes us feel like an inconvenience to you, like you HAVE to say you love us and don’t WANT to say it. The ONLY time this is
okay is if 1: you did this rarely AS WELL AS 2: if you spent $30 on Haley’s birthday present in June and $20 on her Christmas present, you should be spending $50 or more on my “birthday/holiday present” combination. Otherwise I’ll be like why don’t they love me as much?
