In first and second year my friend was in a toxic cycle. I had run out of things to say. Our advice in general at that point was shitty because we were so inexperienced & immature. We concluded that we would just listen to each other instead. No words. Just listening.
She eventually got herself out of it. If we had stopped talking about it altogether what kind of friendship would we have? What kind of âsafe spacesâ are you creating if someone cannot come to you with their mess?
And I say âmessâ ironically because all of us have our messes and itâs funny how we want to determine who has more of a mess than someone else. You donât know how much emotional labour you place on other people.
Itâs good to admit that youâre ill equipped to handle it, but never being that safe space. Or just quit the friendship altogether.
Never stop being that safe space*