A weird part of being introverted is that I never really know when I’ll be “on”. Those that have met me know that I can be really jovial, personable, and fun to be around. I just never know if I’ll be that person, or a complete clam, until I’m already in the situation.

This is especially true when meeting new people. It really helps if I’m introduced but that’s not a guarantee that I’ll be able to switch on. Sometimes I’m just not interested in meeting new folks, not because I think any ill of them, I just don’t have it on me at the moment.

If you want to get an introvert to come out of their shell a bit, don’t start with pointed questions. Take the lead on the conversation and give them time to get to understand you. We are great listeners and it takes the pressure off us to converse “correctly.”

It can seem a little judgmental when we don’t want to put the energy into being friendly to everyone. It only looks that way if you have vast amounts of energy or gain it from social gatherings. For us, it’s resource management. We’ve only got so much and have to use it wisely.

We know the social rules (mostly), we crave companionship like everyone else, we just can’t be what many others are. Not for any extend period at least.

Not sure if this helps anyone. And my experience is not everyone’s. So take it as you will.

If you see me in the wild though, feel free to come talk. Just please don’t be upset if I’d rather listen than speak. (Or if I suddenly flip and talk your ears off!)