Playing hard to get!!!

Siapa pernah play hard to get?
Pernah chase orang yg play hard to get?
Success? Makin suka? Makin nak chase?

Saya akan terangkan psikologi playing hard to get dengan attachment style.

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To revise, ada 4 attachment style dlm attachment theory

1. Secure
2. Anxious Preoccupied
3. Dismissive Avoidant
4. Fearful Avoidant

Tapi bila talk about playing hard to get, saya focus only on anxious preoccupied and dismissive/fearful avoidant.

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Satu kajian cuba memahami siapa yg play hard to get, siapa yg chase orang play hard to get. Result:

Anxious preoccupied = tend to chase orang play hard to get.

Dismissisve/Fearful avoidant = tend to play hard to get.

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Anxious preoccupied attachment style

Dia ni tend to chase org yg play hard to get. Dia ada negative view ttg diri sendiri & view positive akan org lain. So dia akan jadi needy, nak affirmation dari org tu. Jadi dia feel attracted and chase orang yg play hard to get

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Dismissive/Fearful avoidant attachment style

Kalau orang mcm ni, terbalik. Dia tend to play hard to get. Sebab dia feel negative ttg orang lain, tapi positive ttg diri sendiri. Ataupun, dia takut nak dekat sebab tak nak get hurt, walaupun sebenarnya dia nak.

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So now korang dah tau tentang hal ni. Tapi janganlah nak manipulate orang pulak. Tak baik mcm tu. Tapi kalau rasanya ada masalah involving playing hard to get (awak atau the other person), then boleh cuba fahami based on attachment style.

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Memang more complex with more details. Tapi saya simplify it. Kalau nak full details, boleh rujuk the research itself.

Who plays hard-to-get and who finds it attractive? Investigating the role of attachment style
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2020.109997

Nak tahu lebih lanjut tentang attachment style? Check out this thread https://twitter.com/DrAmaliAmin/status/1289768592674676737

Nak fahami tentang learning styles (as a pseudoscience)? Baca thread ni, jangan sampai terpedaya https://twitter.com/DrAmaliAmin/status/1290114555855552512

An overview on regret (penyesalan) https://twitter.com/DrAmaliAmin/status/1289542492161896448

Mcm mana nak improve kita punya Positive Affect Presence? Sebab boleh buat orang lain rasa senang, feel attracted, and nak rapat dengan kita. https://twitter.com/DrAmaliAmin/status/1288730318376038401