Narcissists are incredibly charismatic and know how to cover their tracks. That means they often make it into leadership. This is a great article about why they should be stopped.

https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/how-narcissistic-leaders-destroy-within">https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/...
I was talking to a friend this week about a core concept I use to judge whether people are worthy of my time: How you do anything is how you do everything. Integrity is in small things as well as large ones.

Narcissists fail the test easily. HR departments should pay attention.
I have pretty good judgment about people - not flawless but honestly, highly reliable - and that& #39;s because a big part of how I judge people is not just how they treat me. They may be nice to get something. I look to see how they treat *everyone else* and find the patterns there.
The biggest takeaway, which also easily excludes narcissists, is this: How do they treat and speak about people who have status, money, titles and people who don& #39;t? If they speak admiringly about someone& #39;s material gains - money, titles - I put a little asterisk by them.
And here& #39;s why: The core concept is that all humans have value *regardless of the value the external world has placed on them*. If people think "I want to be around people who have X money or X position," they& #39;re not seeing human qualities. They& #39;re seeing gains that come and go.
All my reporting has been about powerful people, which is also an incredible view into how narcissists function. The main thing I wish more organizations knew is that there is no way to manage narcissists. They are beyond that. You have to prioritize *everyone else*.
It& #39;s also important to clarify: Narcissism is not just "making it all about themselves." Self-involvement can actually be a trauma response by people who have felt erased from the world. They still care. They still have emotions. Narcissists don& #39;t care. They genuinely don& #39;t.
No organizations, as far as I know, screen for narcissists. Many encourage them! (Entertainment is a great example, as is medicine). So it& #39;s important to keep your radar attuned to recognizing these behaviors to protect your own energy.
And again: Narcissism is serious. It& #39;s not memes and behavior you don& #39;t like. It& #39;s not "I& #39;m uncomfortable when we are not about me." It& #39;s not insufferable self-regard. It& #39;s not bragging, it& #39;s not playful grandiosity, it& #39;s not even conventional grandiosity. It& #39;s bigger than that.
This is a key observation on why Silicon Valley looks the way it does.
The thing is: Narcissists can benefit from therapy, because a lot of their toxicity comes from repressed emotions. But they are also the least likely to accept or seek therapy. Here& #39;s how narcissists are formed: https://www.businessinsider.com/how-shame-can-create-a-narcissist-2018-3">https://www.businessinsider.com/how-shame...
More background on how narcissists are created. This video has good perspective on how narcissism tracks with attachment styles -- narcissists tend to believe reinforcement comes from other ppl and they are nothing without that external value and status. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=juzU3XDblYQ&t=98s">https://www.youtube.com/watch...
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