one thing about mothers who treat their daughters like an extension of them is that they'll have a meltdown when the kid cuts all their hair off

i don't have any selfies from when i immediately cut all my hair off but this is maybe a few months post? my mom was sick to my stomach lmao

that behaviour does not end when you're grown btw, i was 19 here and 7 years later my mom still has an attitude about how i present myself

she's like i drag you because i love you, other people don't have the guts to do it. they'll just let you walk around ugly

based on the replies it's interesting how this manifests across racial/ethnic lines. seems like black/brown moms are more aggy about length whereas white ones react to bleaching and dyeing more

narcissism and 'ownership' will drive some parents to project their idealized self onto their child

once the child begins to form their own interests and realize bodily autonomy, parents feel like they're losing the reins of control -- thus meltdowns https://twitter.com/NashikaTamara/status/1283775907535171584?s=19