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Kita pergi kat kawan, express our feelings. Masalah kita, apasal sedih & all
Then dia cakap “Takpe la. Esok2 okay lah tu”
Sakit hati bila dengar ayat mcm tu!!! Mungkin niat dia baik, tapi tu lah, tak helpful. Dlm thread ni saya beri contoh ayat not to say
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Then dia cakap “Takpe la. Esok2 okay lah tu”
Sakit hati bila dengar ayat mcm tu!!! Mungkin niat dia baik, tapi tu lah, tak helpful. Dlm thread ni saya beri contoh ayat not to say
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Dont be mistaken. Sebenarnya ayat2 ni ada yg boleh kita guna. Tapi not at the time orang tu tengah emotional. Dia nak someone to listen and validate. Dia tak nak pity awak. So kita yg mendengar masalah orang tu, sabar dulu. Tunggu lepas dia puas express & dh tenang
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Contoh: Janganlah rasa sedih
Ni ayat selalu kita dengar or ungkapkan. Tak salah, but tunggu lah kita habis express our emotion. Nak meluah2 cerita masalah, awak dh ckp mcm tu. Takde switch on/off bila cakap tentang emotion. Tunggu kita chill dah, baru cakap mcm tu
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Ni ayat selalu kita dengar or ungkapkan. Tak salah, but tunggu lah kita habis express our emotion. Nak meluah2 cerita masalah, awak dh ckp mcm tu. Takde switch on/off bila cakap tentang emotion. Tunggu kita chill dah, baru cakap mcm tu
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Contoh: Jangan fikir hal tu too much
Kalau boleh, mmg kita tak nak fikir tentang masalah or experience yg kita lalui. Tapi kita nak express it, nak meluahkn, melepaskan rasa sesak, berat yg ada kat dada. Selalunya bila dah say it out & then calm down, rasa ringan
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Kalau boleh, mmg kita tak nak fikir tentang masalah or experience yg kita lalui. Tapi kita nak express it, nak meluahkn, melepaskan rasa sesak, berat yg ada kat dada. Selalunya bila dah say it out & then calm down, rasa ringan
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Contoh: Dah, cukup. Sabar lah, think positive
Best kalau dapat mcm tu. Kita tengah sedih, boleh snap out. Just like that. Memang that is what we want. But we can't do it. Cuba korang guna ayat tu kat orang tengah marah2. Boleh snap out? Maybe kena tumbuk tampar
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Best kalau dapat mcm tu. Kita tengah sedih, boleh snap out. Just like that. Memang that is what we want. But we can't do it. Cuba korang guna ayat tu kat orang tengah marah2. Boleh snap out? Maybe kena tumbuk tampar
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Contoh: Okay lah tu. Kau bayangkan, ramai lagi yg teruk dari kau
Please, jangan compare. If nak compare, setiap masalah dlm dunia memang not an issue. Sebab ada saja masalah yg lagi teruk. But hey, a problem is a problem. What we feel is what we feel. It's valid
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Please, jangan compare. If nak compare, setiap masalah dlm dunia memang not an issue. Sebab ada saja masalah yg lagi teruk. But hey, a problem is a problem. What we feel is what we feel. It's valid
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This is not about self-wallowing or wanting pity. Kita meluahkan perasaan kita kat kawan sebab we trust them to be there. Also, kita tak minta kawan to fix the problems. Memang ayat2 kat atas boleh guna, but use it at the right moment. Tunggu kita calm down
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All emotions are valid (good or bad, still valid). Sometimes, if it is destructive, mcm setiap hari feeling down & all, then maybe it's a sign of something more than just normal emotion. Waktu itu lh we need to jumpa pakar. Korang sebagai kawan, don't give up on us
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