Q. When I don't get a job I interviewed for, I wish they would at least tell me what I did wrong

A. SHAKE OFF the idea that when you don't get a job you interviewed for, it means you did something wrong.

YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG

It doesn't work that way.

They hired someone else for any one of about a hundred reasons. The person they hired may done something like this job for a little longer than you have. They may have gone to the same college the hiring manager did.

It might be a good decision to hire that person, or a bad decision. The hiring process may have been fair or it may have been unfair. None of it has anything to do with you. Walk away! You need every drop of emotional energy for your journey. You have none to waste on people...

...who didn't hire you, except maybe just enough energy to send one or two of them a LinkedIn invitation if you feel like it.

Don't waste any of your precious energy being mad at someone who didn't hire you. (Who cares about them, honestly? You have a whole life to lead)

If the process sucked, if your time was wasted, resolve not to let that happen next time. Resolve not to waste time on people who show you they're not serious (or honorable, smart, etc.)

When you drop out of a hiring pipeline because it's dumb and you have better opportunities, do you think the people you've been talking with feel rejected? Probably not very often. Don't feel rejected when you get a "no thanks" letter (or six weeks of radio silence, same thing)

Because there is no rejection. The universe, Mother Nature, God, the laws of physics - whoever made the game - said "This is not the job for you, at least not right now."

Trust them. Trust yourself! Not everybody will see your brilliance, no matter who you are. You only need one manager to...

...GET YOU and thus deserve you on their team