I’m uncomfortable sharing a locker room with anyone who spends more time thinking about a stranger’s genitals than they do trying to remember their locker combination.

Spaces are not less safe when shared with other people who need safety.

I feel like at least some of the focus on “no penises in locker rooms” is the idea that having a penis makes a person subject to its whims, like a dick is a sexual assault divining rod.

It’s another way to absolve cis men from their actions - having a penis that makes one a predator! It’s part of the very nature of having a penis! When the reality is that sexual assault is a lot more complicated than just a rogue penis taking command of the owner’s body.

I’m only uncomfortable if a penis is in a locker room if someone is air drying theirs by flapping it about. But I also think it’s gross when people shave their labias in the sauna. See, unlike JKR and Sean, I prefer to not think about strangers’ genitals when I’m at the gym.

As for spaces like DV shelters, I cannot speak from experience, but if someone is seeking shelter from domestic abuse, if someone is a kindred spirit in trauma, how does one aspect of their physiology negate their need for a service?

None of what I’m saying is new or particularly insightful discourse, but I’m using this as a space to process. I don’t think we can dismantle rape culture without supporting the rights of trans women and non-binary people to occupy traditionally female spaces. So fuck off, JKR.