here's the thing about girls "not looking underage" and "she didn't tell me she was underage." I'm attracted to women. Not once in my life have I seen an under age girl and thought she looked like an adult. They ALL look like kids. Because they are, in fact, kids.
also, the men accused recently of pursuing underage girls were in their 40s+. THEIR 40s+. i think i was like 21 when i met a girl who was 17 and thought "yeah that's a child." to be fucking 40 and not able to tell that a girl is 15 without her pulling out ID is just a lie. period
honestly one of my fav things about being a queer woman is taking all of the bullshit straight men say like "dude you dont get it, i didnt know she was underage, she looked so mature" & being like lol im attracted to women too, you at least had an idea & no she did not. nice try!