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Negative Self-Talk Part 2
Contoh ayat
“Dh 5 kali apply kerja. Apply lagi mesti gagal”
“Mcm2 masalah. Hidup ni useless. I’m useless”
Saya akan explain 5 ways to minimize this. Kita kena kurangkn
Memang susah nk stop 100% so we minimize it. Slowly & consistently
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Contoh ayat
“Dh 5 kali apply kerja. Apply lagi mesti gagal”
“Mcm2 masalah. Hidup ni useless. I’m useless”
Saya akan explain 5 ways to minimize this. Kita kena kurangkn
Memang susah nk stop 100% so we minimize it. Slowly & consistently
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First, if ayat tersebut you won’t say to a friend, then don’t use it
e.g: I’m (you're) not good enough
Bila kawan gagal do something, what will you say?
Option 1: Tu la, kau tak good enough. Bodoh!
Option 2: Cuba lagi, maybe next time dapat! Don't give up.
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e.g: I’m (you're) not good enough
Bila kawan gagal do something, what will you say?
Option 1: Tu la, kau tak good enough. Bodoh!
Option 2: Cuba lagi, maybe next time dapat! Don't give up.
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For sure pilih Option 2
Kalau ada kawan korang pilih Option 1, kawan toxic tu. Hati² sikit, takut makin teruk negative self-talk korang. Mungkin dia gurau je. But please bagi cakap sikit gently
So back to topic, dont say to yourself what you wont say to a friend
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Kalau ada kawan korang pilih Option 1, kawan toxic tu. Hati² sikit, takut makin teruk negative self-talk korang. Mungkin dia gurau je. But please bagi cakap sikit gently
So back to topic, dont say to yourself what you wont say to a friend
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Second, follow up your negative self-talk with positive talk
When we say benda negative, imagine you are your good friend. Apa dia akan reply?
Dia akan reassure us, dia akan deny benda² negative
So do that! Jawab balik negative self-talk dengan ayat² positive
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When we say benda negative, imagine you are your good friend. Apa dia akan reply?
Dia akan reassure us, dia akan deny benda² negative
So do that! Jawab balik negative self-talk dengan ayat² positive
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Third, tell yourself benda ni is beyond your control
We will assume things. Tapi kita kena ingat, benda yang beyond our control is external, diluar kawalan kita. We do not know apa kan berlaku lepas tu
We did our best and then tawakkal. Always remember this
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We will assume things. Tapi kita kena ingat, benda yang beyond our control is external, diluar kawalan kita. We do not know apa kan berlaku lepas tu
We did our best and then tawakkal. Always remember this
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Contohi Nabi Musa (ﷺ). Bila pengikut² Nabi Musa nampak tentera Firaun, mereka risau/takut. But Nabi Musa did not.
[Musa] said, "No! Indeed, with me is my Lord; He will guide me." (Quran, 26:62)
Turunlh wahyu mengarahkn untuk memukul lautan merah, splitting it
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[Musa] said, "No! Indeed, with me is my Lord; He will guide me." (Quran, 26:62)
Turunlh wahyu mengarahkn untuk memukul lautan merah, splitting it
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Fourth, acceptance
It's beyond our control. We did our best & we tawakkal
The outcome may not be what we wanted. It’s okay.
We must learn to accept that. Think of it like this: “Maybe this is not my day but tomorrow is a new day”
There is hikmah behind things.
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It's beyond our control. We did our best & we tawakkal
The outcome may not be what we wanted. It’s okay.
We must learn to accept that. Think of it like this: “Maybe this is not my day but tomorrow is a new day”
There is hikmah behind things.
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Allah (SWT) dah janji in the Quran:
And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. (65:3)
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And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. (65:3)
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Fifth, self-reflection
Think of what we did. What happened?
If it's within our control, then what can we do to be better?
We need to acknowledge what we did. BUT don't blame yourself or others
Ada perbezaan antara acknowledging & blaming. Pay attention to that
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Think of what we did. What happened?
If it's within our control, then what can we do to be better?
We need to acknowledge what we did. BUT don't blame yourself or others
Ada perbezaan antara acknowledging & blaming. Pay attention to that
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Only these 5 for now
I hope this thread is helpful. When I wrote this, it is also a reminder, reinforcement, for myself
I’ll tweet again tomorrow, Part 3
Saya akan beri contoh negative talk, then tukar jadi positive self-talk. Gonna contrast, buat perbandingan
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I hope this thread is helpful. When I wrote this, it is also a reminder, reinforcement, for myself
I’ll tweet again tomorrow, Part 3
Saya akan beri contoh negative talk, then tukar jadi positive self-talk. Gonna contrast, buat perbandingan
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Note tambahan:
Kalau nak baca Part 1, this is the link.
Negative Self Talk Part 1: https://twitter.com/AminnuddinNA/status/1274826684819058688
Kalau nak baca Part 1, this is the link.
Negative Self Talk Part 1: https://twitter.com/AminnuddinNA/status/1274826684819058688
