fun question: if ur the only trans comedian in the room and every comedian before u has made tired jokes abt how "kids id as anything these days" or how trans ppl are traps, how do you correct the MC when he pronounces your name wrong and fucks up your pronouns?

when a comedian says media shouldn't talk about how trans kids have high rates of suicide bc some kids are homeless, how do you tell him that trans children are not immune to homelessness, and that queer and trans youth actually have very high rates of homelessness AND suicide?

when you're the only trans comedian in the room, how do you respond when people say all your material is about being trans or, on the other side, they say it's weird that your material ISN'T about being trans? what is the correct answer, please?

when you specifically go to an LGBT themed night and you are the only trans performer, and also coincidentally the only performer that the MC gets the pronouns wrong for, how the fuck do you point it out?

when people make weird sexual comments about you as a trans dude, esp implying that u can be palatable to straight men, what is the correct response? who do you report them to?

at drinks afterward, when a cis comedian makes a bad joke about trans people, am i really obligated to laugh? even tho it wasn't funny and didn't make sense? am I really the bad sport in that scenario?

there's a huge problem in comedy w misogyny and the abuse of women - it's important to address that and to ALSO address other forms of biogotry bc they all prop one another up and legitimise each other

fully ready for this thread to be ignored bc for some reason people think that multiple forms of bigotry can't be discussed at once, and don't want to think about how if u give a free pass for one abuse it easily counts for others

also btw this applies to other stuff - normalising putting pronouns in your bio, apologising and correcting YOURSELF when you fuck up someone's pronouns instead of making a weird gross joke about it, and not saying "but we have drag queens" when sb talks abt a lack of trans rep

cis people i know this makes you uncomfortable but please fuckin retweet this

also re: SA as a trans man, there's additional barriers in reporting it bc of the way it's associated w gender dysphoria and ESP in the way that trans bodies are treated either as comedic curiosities or as sexual fetishes

ppl feel like they can touch me bc im trans, "to see"

I've sat thru the "kids these days id as anything" nonsense repeatedly, sitting there stone-faced while some lad talks about how children at school id as dogs and cats and saying how obviously it's gone ~too far~ or cis comedians constantly bringing up caitlyn jenner

cis guys will come up to me and run their ~extremely funny~ trans takes past me as i stand there like "..." because they think if they get my permission then obviously it'll be fine - and then get snippy when I'm like "idk i don't get it" bc it's abject nonsense

esp for ages i was terrified of entering the stand up circuit as a trans dude bc i saw no other trans comics on the local circuit or on tv, bc i didn't want to be misgendered or get weird sexual comments

and then i started and got exactly that

and honestly? it's literally normal. u just have to basically shrug it off bcitsbc it's not worth the massive fight people will insist on - or people chuckling wryly and saying, "oh, it's because of the trans thing"

CHANGES CIS ENTERTAINERS CAN MAKE:

- just stop writing jokes about people identifying as (insert blank) - it's tired af and never funny

- MAKE SURE you're using the correct pronouns, and MAKE SURE that you're getting their names right

they/them is not "the trans pronoun" - some people use they/them, but not everyone. if a trans man sends you a bio using he/him pronouns, then use he/him pronouns - if a trans women sends you a bio using she/her, the same.

using they when you know it's WRONG is cuntish

if a trans or nb person corrects you on a point, don't take it as a personal attack - they're trusting that you will accept that they know what they're talking about on this, and that you're willing to learn and improve

DON'T ask trans ppl questions abt their ~trans~ sex life

don't platform TERFs!

don't announce that a performer is trans unless they say to

and please, if you as a cis person think you have a REALLY interesting take about trans issues... in the words of carolyn knapp-shappey, write it down, put it in your pocket, and shut your face