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My feed is full of success porn.
It looks like this: thirst trap photos, book announcements, personal breakthroughs, thanking the fans, project success photos, photos of babies and/or pets.
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It looks like this: thirst trap photos, book announcements, personal breakthroughs, thanking the fans, project success photos, photos of babies and/or pets.
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This is normal and expected.
This is how we build identity. âX worked so I Am the One Who Does Xâ
This is how we broadcast our value to others.
People reacting affirmatively or empathetically confirm our identity.
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This is how we build identity. âX worked so I Am the One Who Does Xâ
This is how we broadcast our value to others.
People reacting affirmatively or empathetically confirm our identity.
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Society is build on the winner narrative. Someone outstanding. The Great Man. Above and beyond.
But we canât all be outstanding. Plenty of people are mediocre.
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But we canât all be outstanding. Plenty of people are mediocre.
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People who are not outstanding and have no recent achievements have no language to speak of themselves.
There are no recipes for average intros. Result? Vague personal bios and profiles:
âHaha, Iâm just a normal guy.â
âI donât like talking about myself. Just say hi.â
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There are no recipes for average intros. Result? Vague personal bios and profiles:
âHaha, Iâm just a normal guy.â
âI donât like talking about myself. Just say hi.â
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âThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ckâ exploded because it admitted the dilemma of the mediocre majority - and the terror of it driving people to identify as âthe worst at Yâ when they have no X to be best at.
Then it changes tack: you have to give a fuck about SOMEthing.
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Then it changes tack: you have to give a fuck about SOMEthing.
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(To be continued; work happened.)
Aight, I lost the context a bit, but if I don& #39;t continue now I& #39;m gonna lose it completely. Here goes.
Having a Thing central to your identity makes you significant and memorable to others.
They assume that if you& #39;ve had self-discipline to achieve success in one area, you will be able to repeat it elsewhere.
Success is a meta-momentum.
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They assume that if you& #39;ve had self-discipline to achieve success in one area, you will be able to repeat it elsewhere.
Success is a meta-momentum.
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A competent but not outstanding person has not built success-momentum.
There is little difference between them, and people who we& #39;d consider less socially functional.
Like the working poor, they& #39;re doing too well for charity, but too poorly to gain momentum (savings.)
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There is little difference between them, and people who we& #39;d consider less socially functional.
Like the working poor, they& #39;re doing too well for charity, but too poorly to gain momentum (savings.)
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The state of "no-longer-promising-but-not-a-success" is an energy valley.
It& #39;s really hard to get out. The skills that keep you stable are working against you.
It would be better to crash flamboyantly, because then at least you& #39;d have a redemption story. But it& #39;s risky.
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It& #39;s really hard to get out. The skills that keep you stable are working against you.
It would be better to crash flamboyantly, because then at least you& #39;d have a redemption story. But it& #39;s risky.
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In order to have a chance, poor people have to exert a much greater degree of discipline than well-off people, because any small setback can completely upset their budget.
They are intensely vulnerable.
But they are not more virtuous than the rest of the population.
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They are intensely vulnerable.
But they are not more virtuous than the rest of the population.
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As a result, we have a significant population of people who are:
1. too functional to fail
2. not virtuous enough to succeed
(Their poverty may be any kind of resource restriction: financial, social, physical or mental health-related, or just belonging to a minority.)
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1. too functional to fail
2. not virtuous enough to succeed
(Their poverty may be any kind of resource restriction: financial, social, physical or mental health-related, or just belonging to a minority.)
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These people are effectively invisible. The value they contribute remains unnamed, because it& #39;s too commonplace. The suffering they endure is laughed off as trivial.
Insignificant is what they are. We convey to them that if they disappeared, nobody would notice.
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Insignificant is what they are. We convey to them that if they disappeared, nobody would notice.
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