For the SATC controversy, an excellent point: https://twitter.com/maria_emmm/status/1252469693815885824

One thing I hated about that show is that the characters were obsessed with finding men who dragged them down instead of lifting them up. The right person will make you feel like gold. I wish "Butterflies" by Kacey Musgraves existed for these ladies.

There's a whole destructive trope in romcoms and shows that women should mistake drama and games for love. This drives me up the wall. Love *feels* like love. Recognize when adrenaline is the driving force (bad) and when oxytocin is (good)

A generally true thing, I think, is that games are never a prelude to a healthy relationship. They're just a sign that one person considers the other an option, something to do until someone better comes along. If people find something they think is really good, they lock it down

I think that may be true across genders? I open it to you.

This is also why I loathe the show. There's no way Carrie really ends up with Big. He shows time and again that he has no fundamental respect for her, that she is not his first option ever, even before he *escapes his own wedding.* He's just addicted to control and power games.

The whole idea that Carrie and Big end up together happily, after years of Big treating Carrie like an option and a nuisance, makes no sense. Maybe something happened - maybe Big got some therapy! - but that's not canon so his turnaround is just Carrie's wish fulfillment

Every day on Twitter there are posts like "my crush doesn't follow me :(" or "my bf never texts," and girl: There's your WHOLE answer. I completely and totally blame SATC for brainwashing women into accepting less than the bare minimum interaction in their own relationships!