How to hold space to fully grieve the plans you've lost (a thread)

1. When the grief hits, do your best not to pretend. Take some time for this wave to settle. Your feelings and experiences are real, and they are valid. Full stop. Take time to acknowledge that life is totally different in unexpected ways right now.

2. Before we can react and respond to challenges, we have to feel them. Let it be painful. Let it be hard. If we don’t honor our feelings, we do a disservice to our hearts, our minds, and ourselves.

3. Lean on others. Express and share your experiences with them. We settle into friendship and community when we do this. Be in company with your lost plans, with your pain, with your sadness, with your hard thoughts.

4. Journal about how this moment is impacting you. You haven’t’ been through this exact experience before, but you have been through (and overcome) hard times before. You can do hard things.

5. Remember who you are. Remember all you’ve already survived. Let this guide you through the intensity, the scarcity, the hardness. Yes, you are vulnerable, and things might feel impossible right now, but you are strong, and we will make it through this together.

This thread was inspired by Episode 25 of the show, Grieving the Plans We Had & Choosing Our Next Steps. Listen now at https://share.transistor.fm/s/3bd874b5