Open communication is key for lasting relationships. But sometimes, we refuse to be open, or we knowingly or unknowingly stonewall our partner via silent treatment, mumbling monotone utterances, changing the subject, or leaving the room, as a defense mechanism to self-preserve.

Knowing why we choose not to be vulnerable in our relationships is a must. Do we feel unsafe because of our partner, or our own inner states? If we do not trust our partner, this foundational piece must be restored with concerted efforts for a healthy relationship to re-emerge.

Carrying on in a close relationship without the ability to trust or the willingness to be vulnerable, is unhealthy for our emotional, mental & physical states, as this lack of trust can create chronic stress+nervous system overflow, increasing adrenaline+fight or flight response.

Repeated stonewalling and withdrawal in a relationship is a likely way to guarantee a break up, or a highly dysfunctional & toxic relationship that wreaks havoc on our mental, physical & emotional health. Finding ways to resolve conflict through healthy communication is essential

If it’s not possible to repair, revive or reframe a relationship, as sometimes it’s not, it may be that we need to take space or parts ways as difficult as this may be. We deserve to live our lives, and love & be loved in healthy, vibrant & authentic ways. We deserve to LOVE life