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I'm tired of wedding culture. It should be okay for people to decline being a bridesmaid if its honestly too expensive. It should be okay for your friends who cannot afford you asoebi to not be forced to spend the money.
It should be okay a bridal shower to be whatever is within the bridesmaids/friends/family budget and I miss the days when it was girls kikii-ing it up in someones living room. Women waste too much time and spend too much money and effort on weddings.
The sameness and routine of it is played out. I know our culture is overwhelmingly oppressive but I wish more brides were allowed autonomy to celebrate their day however they see fit. And for God's sake, your friends don't need to soak garri because you are getting married.
I'm not judging anyone - I just don't understand wedding culture. Everytime I see someone morph into a "bride" i'm looking at them like, you're really gonna get sucked into all this shit. It must be addictive - I have no idea.
I feel sorry for the yoots just entering their "wedding season" because the game don changed, Nigerian weddings have gone nuclear.
Another thing - yes getting married is supposedly the "greatest" event of a woman's live, but stop expecting your wedding to take precedence over things in other people's lives. Its important that your friends are there to celebrate with you & ply you with compliments..
But dont use being a 'bride' as an excuse to stop being a friend or being there for others. Your stress isn't more important than someone else's because its for a wedding, neither tbh, is your event so much more pressing than anything going on in someone else's life.
