tag on post about darkfic: "that being said if you romanticisize it you have treaded into the wrong neighnorhood"[sic]

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so, uh, i have a lot of Doubts that we can so easily tell what romanticizes abuse and what doesn& #39;t in fanworks & feel that appropriate tags negate most harm
it& #39;s a different ball game when you get into works with bigger, more heterogeneous audiences and no agreed-on warning/flagging system (aka anything published or mass media) and god knows there& #39;s a fckton of romance novels with abuse/toxic behavior treated as romantic
but even these would be a lot less worrying if we just provided much better education about what abuse looks like IRL??? like legit, a good education will nip 98% of potential issues caused by immoral fiction right in the bud
and some people enjoy fiction that has abuse/toxic behavior being treated as romantic! and as long as they know this is actually an abusive situation irl that& #39;s their business. the thing to prevent is RL harm, not immoral fiction, and truth/education is what protects people.
and finally: if someone consumes a story where abuse is treated as romance, and an abuser then uses that model to draw in, trap, and abuse that person: the only person at fault is the abuser. reading & #39;bad& #39;/immoral content is not signing an invisible agreement to be abused irl.
when we tell people & #39;reading bad fiction can lead to abusive situations& #39; we tell people & #39;if you read bad fiction, then your abuse is your fault. you set yourself up to be tricked into thinking abuse was desirable and okay.& #39;
& that is some seriously victim-blamey nonsense right there.

abuse is always the fault of the abuser. nobody else. & frankly, it wouldn& #39;t matter what you were reading: abusers can use anything as a tool to get close to you & abuse you. it& #39;s what they do.

Not. Your. Fault.
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