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So, I spent a lot of time doing research on why hotel beds feel so good and this is what I figured out: https://twitter.com/SeauxCocoa/status/958079377773821952
Hotel beds are usually hybrids. This means they use a combination of coils (individually wrapped) and foam.
The mattress is typically a high profile mattress, on top of a high profile foundation, often with a down (or alternative down) topper.
In some hotels, under the topper is a cooling pad, that increases the level of plush while ensuring you don't get too hot under their deluxe duvets.
The pillows are typically Canadian white down fill. These babies run like, $100-$300 a pop depending on fill capacity.
Then, there are the sheets. Hotel sheets are typically Egyptian long staple and/or American Pima percale weave. In terms of extra long staple and long staple cotton, 400 thread count is Ritz Carlton - St. Regis - Four Seasons type luxury.
(Remember, anything affordable over 480-thread count is scammy. The cotton and/or weave is typically shit. Also, you cannot have 600-800 thread count extra long staple sheets because the cotton's integrity is compromised.)
Then, there is the duvet. Often 700-fill power Canadian down duvets, inside a 480-thread count duvet cover. Super plushly. On top of that is often a pima waffle coverlet.
Gotta run for the train. When I get home I am posting affordable alternatives for ALL OF THIS stuff. You can have a hotel bed at home, too!
Okay I am back. Pulling up links and stuff. Gimme a sec.
Okay so different folks probably have different things. Very few people want to or can afford to replace everything, but the most common thing people want to start with is sheets!
Hotel sheets can run as a high as $800. There are better options. In terms of mid-price, my favorite is Brooklinen by a long shot. You'll pay $130+ for the 200-thread count classic sheets ( https://www.brooklinen.com/collections/classic-percale-sheets/products/classic-core-sheet-set?variant=24296797190) and $150+ for 480-TC luxury sheets ( https://www.brooklinen.com/products/luxe-core-sheet-set?variant=24301280582).
If you don't have hundreds for sheets, Mellani flannels are your absolute go to. Only $40-50 for a set of 100% medium staple Egyptian cotton sheets. Not treated with chemicals or harsh dyes. Good for children. WARM.( https://www.mellanni.com/products/100-cotton-flannel-sheets-set).
Now onto duvets. Down duvets are frustratingly pricey. I paid $300 for the natural down all-season duvet from Brooklinen ( https://www.brooklinen.com/collections/down-comforters/products/down-comforter?variant=6963819459), but I haven't bought a duvet in 10 years and I don't plan to need another for 10 more years. A good duvet should last you that long.
Because most down duvets are going to be expensive, ppl looking to save are going to want to move on to down alternative. I have this as a back-up for company in case they need to bunk on the couch: ( https://www.amazon.com/Superior-Alternative-Comforter-Insert-Hypoallergenic/dp/B005TOVZSS). It is REALLY, REALLY comfy. Costs $50.
As you can see, I am anti-cutesy comforter. I believe in duvet covers *over* a plain duvet, because they keep your duvet in tip-top shape for a long time. You can remove the duvet cover and wash as much as you need to, then wash your duvet on lesser schedule.
Moving onto bed frames and mattresses and mattress toppers...
So there are two primary types of frames. Panel and platform are most common. Platform beds usually come with slats that are kinda close together. Panel beds are not usually sold with slats, but they have rails that can hold a box-spring.
(We'll come back to that, cause your type of bed frame determines what kind of mattress you can use.)
There are 3 primary types of mattress: coil, foam, hybrid. Coil is obviously... coil. Quality coil mattresses will mention *individually wrapped coil* which means better, evenly-distributed support. There is natural latex foam & memory foam. Hybrid is combo of aforementioned.
Foam mattresses can sit directly on the slats of a platform, or a foundation made for foam mattresses. Foam mattresses do not have to go on top of box springs, but if they do, it needs to be a new box spring. Foam mattresses cannot go on the floor for long. It'll mold.
Coil mattresses and hybrid mattresses typically need box-springs.
Hotel beds are usually HYBRID or MEMORY FOAM, which sit on box springs. There are FOUR levels of EACH: extra plush, plush, medium firm, firm, extra firm. Hotel beds are usually *PLUSH* or *MEDIUM FIRM.*
These days you can find frames for all kinds of prices. Globalization has really benefited the consumer in terms of choices, so I'm not going over that because there are so many options.
The mattress game has gotten extra competitive, so there are now AMAZING options for low prices. I will start with foam options.
This 10" PLUSH Memory Foam Mattress is $250 (queen). https://www.allmodern.com/bedding/pdp/10-plush-memory-foam-mattress-indm1004.html ...This 12" Medium Firm Foam mattress is $310 (queen) ( https://www.allmodern.com/bedding/pdp/wayfair-sleep-12-memory-foam-mattress-wfsl1001.html?piid=16129200). I have the 12". My bed feels like fucking heaven.
Remember, you can put foam directly on slats of a platform bed. This is what I wanted because I like low-profile beds (I feel off a bed once and am still traumatized tbh). Also, I didn't want to spend the money for a box spring.
Remember, we are trying to replicate hotel sex. You want to stick with Plush or Medium firm. Personal experience: firm is terribly uncomfortable & with extra firm you might as well be sleeping on the damn floor. Extra plush may not offer enough support for folks with back issues.
Hybrid mattresses are a little more pricey, but there are still some affordable options out there if you're in the mattress market. Note that you'll likely want a box-spring that is in really, really good shape. My friend has this $405 hybrid: ( https://www.amazon.com/LINENSPA-Inch-Memory-Hybrid-Mattress/dp/B0763SSWRP/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8).
This $300 10.5" hybrid has good ratings. Unfortunately, I don't have a personal review or friend review. ( https://www.allmodern.com/bedding/pdp/wayfair-sleep-wayfair-sleep-plush-hybrid-mattress-wfsl1036.html?piid=20292857)
I recently bought 2 of these. $40 per pillow. Low fill goose down. You'll spend more money on high-fill down pillows. They get pricey, but these are comfy to me on top of the cheap pillow behind it. 
( https://www.amazon.com/White-Goose-Down-Feather-Pillows/dp/B01LPN090Q/ref=sr_1_5?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1517268675&sr=1-5&keywords=down%2Bpillow&th=1)
( https://www.amazon.com/White-Goose-Down-Feather-Pillows/dp/B01LPN090Q/ref=sr_1_5?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1517268675&sr=1-5&keywords=down%2Bpillow&th=1)
Onto the topper. This is what really, really distinguishes the hotel bed from your bed. The topper adds an extra layer of plush and cools you down. If you notice, hotel beds are strangely cool.
There are so many toppers on the market, but the primary two are: down and gel. My topper is down. If you *already own* a mattress and are not looking to replace? This is going to take you to the next level. It goes under the fitted sheet.
Now, toppers run into the thousands, especially for down. I didn't think I was going to find one because I was not spending thousands of even $200+, but I scored one for $170 at *regular price.* I own this topper. ( https://www.overstock.com/Bedding-Bath/Super-Snooze-5-inch-230-Thread-Count-Baffled-Featherbed-Set/1464042/product.html?refccid=HMXLAU4MQJW3DPSFWGKMDWC5NI&searchidx=0&keywords=Super%20Snooze%205-inch%20230%20Thread%20Count%20Baffled%20Featherbed%20Set&refinement=).
The reason why the topper is the level up is because it is 100% squishy plushness, on top of a supporting foundation (mattress).
Couple notes: memory foam mattresses need about two days to fully expand. Don't freak out if you buy a 10" and, when you first put it down, it's 7-inches. Give it the full two days and try to sleep on the couch (I know 
) while it does its thing.
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In terms of plushness, I made the mistake of thinking I needed firm. So I bought firm at first and hated it. It was so uncomfortable. I sent it back. It is so hard to nail down exactly what level you need, but in my opinion, err on the side of plush.
And lastly, the coverlet. That's just a blanket that keeps you warmer lol. It's not very special but it can trap warmth and notch up the coziness if you like to sleep in a super cold room. I have a little waffle coverlet from Target. ( https://www.target.com/p/waffle-weave-blanket-threshold-153/-/A-51439510)
Before I leave y'all alone I will say that you want to avoid harsh detergent and never use bleach on your white linens. It's so harsh & will cut the life of your linens in half. I use good ole Trader Joe's detergent (half the manufacturer's suggested measurement). It's so gentle.
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(Additional note: If you are a coil/spring mattress sleeper transitioning to hybrid or foam, it is actually a major change for your body. Your body will need about 30 days for successful transition.)
