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Hello please don't start stripping if you think it will be an easy fun way to make a bunch of money quickly because that's not how it is at all it requires a *lot* of mental & physical strength & sometimes you make less than minimum wage ITS A REAL JOB WITH REAL WORK! & TAXES!
We're already getting new girls auditioning all "omg I cant believe we're doing this" thatve left on the first day crying/frustrated/confused because theyre not rich already & theres rules & mean men & the moneys going to the harder hustlers & the moves are harder than they look.
If you think I'm being an asshole, I'm not. I'm considered the welcoming committee at my club because I'm the only girl that bothers asking fresh meat their name, let alone help them. But even I'm sick of dealing with crying girls cuz they made $4 & somebody grabbed their ass.
This job is 80% rejection. Getting lead on with "maybe later"s & "after this drink"s & "fuck off"s. These men will drain your patience for as long as they can for as little money as possible. Very few actually *want* to pay you.
& the ones that do pay you want the most out of your money, more often than not things you aren't willing to give. & you're expected to smile & coo at them like a child into not sexually abusing you.
The girls are against you whether they say it to your face or not. We all want the same thing from the same people. It's a competition, not a sorority house of feminine love. This is war doused in glitter.
The days you make good money are such a relief, but when you think about all of the horrible conversations & harassment & time & energy you put in before catching that "lucky break" you know you fucking earned it & then some. It was not easy. It was not fun.
If you don't have a very strong sense of self worth, this job will fucking break you. (You don't make money? Everybody's an asshole? It must be you. You're not good enough, not pretty enough.) You *cannot* let think like that. The other girls & customers can *smell* insecurity.
These men will treat you like you're a lesser human. A sex object without feelings. The girls will slutshame you if you do well, laugh at you if you don't. You'll come home sore covered in bruises with $80 after 9 hours wishing you'd put in an app at Jimmy Johns instead a LOT.
I'm not sure how to close this thread but if you think you've got what it takes physically, psychologically, & spiritually to strip, go for it. If you're looking for a cop out to a "real job" so you can flex money on social media & breeze through life, stay the hell away.
Strippers post on social media the same way everybody else does. Highlighting the good parts. Sweeping the absolute garbage that comes with the job under the rug so onlookers think it's all glamor. Don't fall for it.
O YEAH ANOTHER THING if you think it's gonna be easy to hide that you're dancing from friends/family/partners you are so wrong. I have the luxury of having nothing to lose by being open but a lot of people don't & I see girls break down cuz so & so found out on a weekly basis.
This job fucks up your social life even if you're keeping it a secret. Big unhealthy secrets in relationships are super stressful & toxic. A lot of partners will consider it cheating!! Don't do that!!!
I've been right next to a scream-crying dancer as she held her phone on speaker to her parents telling her she's disgusting & a wh*re & they don't want her in their lives any more. She said all the right things & they still told her she was scum. It's not okay but it happens.
& if you're public about stripping to your friends? Have fun looking for new friends because half of them will try to use you for money & degrade you sexually as a "joke" on a constant basis.
Dating as a dancer? Impossible. They fetishize you to the extreme & as soon as you're locked in, they expect you to quit because they think they own your body now & nobody else should be allowed to see it. Captain save-a-h*e to the max.
I am genuinely blown away by how many understanding & positive reactions I’ve received from my dancing thread.
To the surprisingly few of you that have had some shit to say..the purpose of my thread was not “Don’t start dancing it’s a terrible job” but it’s more of a “Understand that we too have struggles, & not everyone is cut out for the life.”
