Ok here's my question tho: how you gonna create a dark fantasy aesthetic, sing panty-dropping lyrics, but then your texts are like.. "u up?"

Bro. You put in so much work. You got the haircut, the clothes, the music, the jewelry, the eyeliner.

And then at 12am you're like

"wyd"

HOW ARE YOU GONNA GO THAT FAR AND THEN STOP. WHAT IS THE POINT OF CREATING A FANTASY PERSONA IF YOU'RE NOT LIVING IT.

It's like, I'm picking up what you're putting down. I see what you're creating. Fuck yes I want that. I'm all in.

And then it's like "heyy"

I'm like "I feel so embodied with you, I feel every nerve ending, every cell connected, to the tips of my fingers"

"it's probably the weed"

MY HEART. IT BREAKS.

I swear, some of my best work just goes to waste.

A lot of guys use fuckboy lingo to signal intent, communicating they don't want a relationship. OK BUT THERE ARE SEXIER WAYS TO SAY THAT.

I'm not talking about those creepy LARPy dudes who go around pretending they're Casanova with every woman. That's just gross and try-hard.

But if you're getting a green light and going in for the kill, FOR FUCKS SAKE LEAN INTO THE THING YOU'RE CREATING

Sure, I can bring my own magick to the table. Nobody's better at that than me. But it's like they're NOT EVEN IN ON THE JOKE

I'm just over here creating this world by myself and they just look the part, I guess

But this is a thing, this has happened with multiple dudes. They create just enough fantasy to generate widespread interest...

...and then they coast on that momentum to get lazy and let everything come to them. They stop creating beyond the aesthetic.

And I mean... it still works...

but is it as fun?

It's like if you're a real estate agent saying "hey come check out this house"...

...and then I show up and this is the interior:

It's like, ok, yeah I COULD maybe make something out of this but it would take me an awful lot of work

I feel like this is a toxic masculinity/homophobia issue. Commit too hard to a romantic fantasy (a HETERONORMATIVE one) and you must be gay.

Robert Greene talks about this in his chapter on The Dandy in Art of Seduction. The Dandy is often derided by other men for his fem nature.

BUT NEVER BY WOMEN. Women fucking love him. They feel understood.

This is what bothers me about so much of the seduction community: men want to seduce in ways that impress other men, not women.

They think putting in the least effort possible makes them better at it. They're fucking journeymen. There's no craftsmanship.

Seducing in a way that pleases a woman makes them a "beta," "supplicating"

Yeah there's that too. They come close enough that women will go the rest of the way. https://twitter.com/drnerdlove/status/918277139853692928

I mean... I can't really complain about what I permit

But is it fun? Sometimes I look at people's barely-furnished apartments and I'm like, did you forget that you live here?

I sit in my balcony garden looking at the neighbors' balconies- storage for bikes, junk, all the same plastic venetian blinds in the windows

Holy shit this is your LIFE. This is your HOME. What are you building?? Did you forget that you have a body??

How are you gonna show me what inspires you and then not actually live it? Where's the light in your eyes?

I could cry. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only living person on the planet.