Maybe it's time to review what tshuvah is (and isn't.) A nice concise summary of the steps, according to Maimonides:

Note a few things: 1) "stopping doing harmful stuff" comes before any amends or apology. You can't say sorry if you're STILL DOING IT.

You have to also do very very VERY hard work to change how you think. These days I'd say therapy would be useful embedded in that step.

THEN you have to fix what you broke. Stepped on someone's foot? Pay medical expenses. (Yes, even if unintentional). Something worse? +

Well, what are appropriate amends to compensate for the harm you caused? This probably negotiated w/person harmed.

Maybe it's financial. Maybe it's a public apology (I guess that happens on social media now). Maybe something else. But FIX comes b4 SORRY

You can't confess to God & do the work of getting absolved on Yom Kippur if you haven't made amends to AND apologized to the hurt party.

If you haven't made it right by the real human person you harmed, God doesn't want to hear it.

And note that tshuvah isn't complete until you've become the kind of person who doesn't do that thing. Next time you choose differently.

If you haven't done the transformational work, you'll find yourself in that position--being harmful the same way--again and again.

Maybe you're cheating on a new partner. Or talking trash abt a different friend behind their back. Same sins keep returning until we change.

Tshuvah isn't meant to be something you do 40 days or 10 days a year. This deep-level change is all-year-round stuff. Get clear on that.

So don't think you can just email off some "sorry about that" letters and not do the work. What's the work that you need to do?

Also, the stuff in this thread. https://twitter.com/theradr/status/909471595432902656