If you have to associate with lots of low quality people because you do not have sufficient independence, autonomy or status, you need to be able to make people laugh whilst staying detached detached from the worries, stresses and complaints they lay at your feet.

Never get involved in their politics. Regular people are tribal and whiny. They always want you to take a side. Make a joke out of it and have no real opinion. If they press you, claim ignorance and confusion. Switch off when they whine, repeat last sentence back to them etc

Wisdom and honour (not pride/face, but actual integrity + good ethics) are things worthy of respect.

In women, grace + chastity is worthy of respect.

You will find all of these qualities are rare, but wisdom is the most common.

Most people are more likeable than respectable.

You can know a guy who is degenerate, foolish and lazy but enjoy his company because he's very funny. You like him, but you don't respect him.

Same with women - you can enjoy flirting with her, so you like her, but because she's neurotic and unreasonable, you don't respect her.

Most people think if you don't respect someone, then you don't like them. This is false. It simply means you don't look up to them, admire them, or view them as all that credible or an authority. You can like people without looking up to them. This is how men should view women.

Say you know someone who isn't very bright and has a lot of problems they're unable to resolve. Would you respect them? No. What is there to respect? Nothing. Does that mean you hate them? No. Knowing you are superior to them doesn't mean you have to treat them poorly.

If you're a sober minded person, you will know whether the person you're dealing with is above or beneath you in general ability. As a general rule, if the other person makes you feel like a parent you're their superior + if they make you feel like a child, they're your superior.

Sometimes you find someone you can mutually benefit from, but this is the exception not the rule. In almost all relationships you will provide the bulk of the value, or receive the bulk of the value. You're the teacher, or the student. Rarely are you both simultaneously.

Most relationships are asymmetric. The more your value rises, the lower the odds that asymmetry is in your favour, and the more attractive you become to predators and desperate people. So it is important to limit their access and your exposure to ensure your well-being.

Average people don't try to provide value. For example, the typical person will ask for your advice, take up a fair amount of your time (if you let them), then say thanks + leave. They won't say thank you for your advice + time, if there's anything I can do for you, let me know.

Don't be average. Always look for a way to provide value. Don't appeal to mercy or gratitude - that's being hopeful and hope isn't a strategy. Always look for an angle. See if there's anything you can do for them they want/need. Doesn't matter how small. Find something. Offer it.

Doesn't matter if the thing you're offering is less valuable than the thing you want from them. It's not about profit. It's about signalling. You're saying you're a reciprocator, not a parasite. You want to play a positive sum game rather than a zero sum one. This sets you apart.

Fastest way to alienate someone and never get their help ever again, is to take their generosity for granted. If they are a fool, they will allow you to continue exploiting them. If they are not, they will cut you off, and then you will be sad you lost a valuable person.

The willingness to offer your services (no matter how modest they may be) in any way you can to anyone who has helped you in any capacity demonstrates a willingness to engage in reciprocity, and thus a certain modesty and honour. This shows good character and is respectable.

I've known rich people that'll endlessly consume my time with self-centred questions not once thinking to ask if there's anything they can do for me, and likewise poor people desperate to repay me in whatever small way they can. Money can't buy character. This isn't a class thing

I will flat out say women are the worst for this. They are users. If they identify value in you, they will try to extract it whilst giving nothing in return. They just take, take, take. Which is why they make poor friends. Gf/wife is the exception, because you get to f**k her.

They have no shame nor sense of indebtedness. No wanting to repay you for your help - because they lack honour. They're self-obsessed and selfish. They do not consider you. They will use you if you let them. So don't. Be generous on your own terms, but do not let her use you.

Crude truth society will want to crucify me for: most women have little value to offer other than their body, and they know it. No good conversation. No money. No connections. No useful skills. Nothing to teach. Zero. Just sex. And they always whine. Sad, but true. 90%+ of women.

Difference between men and women, is men know they have to bring something to the table.

Women think they are the table and therefore dont have to bring anything.

Different mindset. Makes them mediocre. Plus they have an expectation of provision. Makes them more prone to using.