If you want to be a power couple, steal this monthly relationship meeting:

Brad Feld is a multi-millionaire and venture capitalist at Foundry Group.

On the Tim Ferriss Podcast (Episode #448),

He reveals a powerful monthly relationship meeting he and his wife follow (also a badass)

It’s called “Life Dinner.”

For the past 16 months, I’ve followed Life Dinner with my long-term GF.

It’s been a game-changer for our relationship.

Here’s the why and how of Life Dinner:

—Life Dinner: Why—

Life Dinner is a scheduled time to check in with your significant other.

It’s like agile planning (with your most important client)

The process builds intimacy, trust, & accountability.

With a US divorce rate of 50%, we need new strategies like Life Dinner.

—Life Dinner: How—

Set a recurring calendar invite on the 1st of every month.

The session can take as little as 20 mins

But it’s better to have 1-2 hrs allotted (if you need it).

During “Life Dinner,” you’ll discuss 3 overarching categories:

1. Personal Reflection on Last Month

2. Relationship Reflection on Last Month

3. Personal Goals for Next Month

Let’s dive into each…

1. Personal Reflection on Last Month

Guiding Questions:

• What could I have done better?

• What was I proud of?

• What’s causing me anxiety?

• What am I worried about for the future?

2. Relationship Reflection on Last Month

Guiding Questions:

• What’s one little thing we noticed about each other that we love?

• Are there things we learned about from our relationship?

• How might we want to improve moving forward?

3. Personal Goals for Next Month

Guiding Question:

• What do I want to achieve over the next 4 weeks?

(This is helpful for prioritization and accountability.)

Now, some guiding principles:

1. No stonewalling. Don’t close up or detach while having tough conversations.

2. Be in the moment. Approach everything from a place of love. Ask thoughtful questions.

3. Prepare ahead of time. Keep a running journal of things you want to discuss.

TL;DR for “Life Dinner”

Schedule a monthly meeting with your partner:

1. Personal Reflection on Last Month

2. Relationship Reflection on Last Month

3. Personal Goals for Next Month

It’s a relationship system for trust, intimacy, and accountability.

There you have it—a monthly meeting for power couples.

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Ben