It's a common wish that therapist can provide perfect/all-caring relationship that will solve all patient's problems. It's called the golden fantasy—& can be major obstacle to getting well.

Some therapists have parallel fantasy they can provide perfect/all-caring relationship. https://twitter.com/KemtrupTweets/status/1508148559983513601

2/ Progress comes when golden fantasy is recognized/explored/understood in psychotherapy. It's a bitter pill—when it sinks in that hardship is inevitable & no one can protect us from it or undo past wrongs. relinquishing the fantasy means grief & mourning. But it is precisely

3/ this—grieving what cannot be undone & what cannot be—that allows us to invest in what *can* be. It opens door to psychological change.
Therapists who think they can be the perfect parent the patient never had are not facilitating psychological change, they're obstructing it.