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"20 things to start doing in your 20s so you don't live in regret in your 40s"
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1. Learn to accept and love yourself first.
In other words, show some self-compassion. Scientists say it can make you more successful because you're learning from your missteps, instead of just berating yourself for them.
In other words, show some self-compassion. Scientists say it can make you more successful because you're learning from your missteps, instead of just berating yourself for them.
2. Learn to say no with confidence.
It's best to learn this skill now, while it's still relatively early in your career. That way, you can prioritize the people and experiences that are truly meaningful to you.
It's best to learn this skill now, while it's still relatively early in your career. That way, you can prioritize the people and experiences that are truly meaningful to you.
3. Take more risks.
Don't talk yourself out of doing things you want to do. Don't let fear win.
Bezos has said: "Given a 10% chance of a 100 times payoff, you should take that bet every time."
Don't talk yourself out of doing things you want to do. Don't let fear win.
Bezos has said: "Given a 10% chance of a 100 times payoff, you should take that bet every time."
4. Pull the trigger.
This one goes back to the fear of failure.
So try out life in another country, or launch your business on a small scale and see how it goes. If it doesn't work out, you can always try again.
This one goes back to the fear of failure.
So try out life in another country, or launch your business on a small scale and see how it goes. If it doesn't work out, you can always try again.
5. Turn your weaknesses into strengths.
For Phelps, having a somewhat awkward body type made him a pretty bad runner and dancer — but it also made him an incredible swimmer.
Figure out what makes you weird, and turn it into the thing that makes you a winner
For Phelps, having a somewhat awkward body type made him a pretty bad runner and dancer — but it also made him an incredible swimmer.
Figure out what makes you weird, and turn it into the thing that makes you a winner
6. Learn to negotiate with politeness.
Learning to negotiate early in your career is a pretty big deal.
Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.
Learning to negotiate early in your career is a pretty big deal.
Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.
7. Forgive yourself.
Forgiveness is an act of self-love. When you forgive yourself, self-acceptance begins and self-love grows.
Forgiveness is an act of self-love. When you forgive yourself, self-acceptance begins and self-love grows.
8. Don't compare yourself to others.
Research suggests that comparing yourself to others is pretty pointless. That's because, from the outside, people can seem a lot happier and less troubled than they really are.
Research suggests that comparing yourself to others is pretty pointless. That's because, from the outside, people can seem a lot happier and less troubled than they really are.
9. Don't be afraid to change directions.
The longer you wait to change, the harder it will feel to change. So get used to change, because you'll probably need to do it a number of times throughout your life and career.
The longer you wait to change, the harder it will feel to change. So get used to change, because you'll probably need to do it a number of times throughout your life and career.
Book recommendation: “Live Intentionally” Live Intentionally is a 90 Day Self-Improvement Project that will help you stop living in auto pilot.
"Be the change that you wish to see in the world."
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"Be the change that you wish to see in the world."
Get your copy:
https://gumroad.com/a/665097331/vrvFg
10. Don't rack up debt.
If you find yourself in this situation, consider taking a tip from one former Business Insider reporter and going on a cash-only diet, during which you stop using credit and debit cards completely
If you find yourself in this situation, consider taking a tip from one former Business Insider reporter and going on a cash-only diet, during which you stop using credit and debit cards completely
11. Don't burn your bridges.
Don't burn your bridges. Personal, work, whatever.
According to national workplace expert Lynn Taylor, if your new position is in the same industry or city, there's a good chance you'll run into your former boss and coworkers again.
Don't burn your bridges. Personal, work, whatever.
According to national workplace expert Lynn Taylor, if your new position is in the same industry or city, there's a good chance you'll run into your former boss and coworkers again.
12. Try to avoid thinking of your 30s as some kind of stopping point for fun things.
Several people whose 30s have been more fun than their 20s, and it's in part because they can look back and realize they're better at balancing and enjoying the things they want to do
Several people whose 30s have been more fun than their 20s, and it's in part because they can look back and realize they're better at balancing and enjoying the things they want to do
13. Do not spend one more minute of your life with someone who makes you feel like you are less than you are.
He or she will never change for the better and you might just change for the worse.
He or she will never change for the better and you might just change for the worse.
14. Take care of your body.
It generally is easier to manage your weight when you're younger because we tend to be less active as we age. Moreover, we may become less attuned to our bodies' nutritional needs as we get older.
It generally is easier to manage your weight when you're younger because we tend to be less active as we age. Moreover, we may become less attuned to our bodies' nutritional needs as we get older.
15. Don't get caught up in the cycle of buying expensive things to keep up with the Joneses.
Delaying gratification, instead, and saving that money for later has the potential to make you extremely wealthy down the line.
Delaying gratification, instead, and saving that money for later has the potential to make you extremely wealthy down the line.
16. Build upon friendships.
Vanessa Van Edwards, a human-behavior researcher, recommends ditching your "ambivalent friends" — such as jealous, undermining, and unsure frenemies — to minimize stress in your life.
Vanessa Van Edwards, a human-behavior researcher, recommends ditching your "ambivalent friends" — such as jealous, undermining, and unsure frenemies — to minimize stress in your life.
17. Don't rush to cram stuff into your 20s because you think you should.
I have never understood this 'do things before you're 30' thing. I don't see why you can't do things after you're 30.
Just do what you want, do what feels natural, and take your time with it if need be.
I have never understood this 'do things before you're 30' thing. I don't see why you can't do things after you're 30.
Just do what you want, do what feels natural, and take your time with it if need be.
18. Distance yourself from drama
Protect yourself from toxic people and situations – it’s a waste of your time and energy.
Protect yourself from toxic people and situations – it’s a waste of your time and energy.
19. Invest in self-improvement
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.
20. Set goals
If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes
If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes
Self-care tip:
You can't improve if you don't know what you're doing wrong.
• Make time for stillness
• Master over your mind
• Practice decision-making skills
Work on your mental models. Practice critical thinking
get your copy: https://gumroad.com/a/377787507/AxfYH
You can't improve if you don't know what you're doing wrong.
• Make time for stillness
• Master over your mind
• Practice decision-making skills
Work on your mental models. Practice critical thinking
get your copy:
https://gumroad.com/a/377787507/AxfYH
