I was inspired today to talk about disrespect by two of my followers. First thanks to @_ItsMissBre we are going to discuss what you feel is disrespect from a child
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#PositiveParenting

First off, I gotta give y’all some tough love…
“Children who aren't treated with respect have no model for respectful behavior.”

If you disrespect your children you model and build disrespect.

What does that mean?
When a child is disrespectful, the first source to consider is the behavior of the adults in this child's life. If the parents & village call each other names, belittle the child and their feelings, and sneer when he objects to anything…..well

If you punish when they do something wrong… when you do something they feel is wrong guess what they want to do to you… punish, but they have little power so how do they punish you… disrespect/non compliance

Now you don’t have to yell and berate your child to be disrespectful. I’ll give a innocent ex
“Yelling for your child to come here immediately to give you something (non emergency). Getting angry when they try to finish up what they are doing first and yelling or punishing”

Think if your spouse or a friend did that to you. When we go to a restaurant, if someone snaps their fingers at the waiter and demands the food before anyone else or they will get the waiter fired… we would think them rude and disrespectful as hell but we do it to our kids

Innocent ex 2
Your child isn’t logging in to their virtual classes so you punish them by grounding them to the house.
How does this correlate or help the problem? Now they have to do the virtual classes they hate & not get any release time outside. Do you see that ending well?

When feel your child is being disrespectful or non compliant, I want you to ask yourself these things first

Then I want you to run through these

But most importantly, I want you to be brave enough to take an uncomfortable look at yourself cause you might have to make some changes. I know I did

Most of the parents I know who say their children talk back or talk grown, ….their children talk exactly like them. Lol

Don’t get caught in a revenge cycle cause that’s what it is. You punish them and the only way they can punish and get back at you is disrespectful and non compliance which you again punish them for…….
Stop the cycle.

I know that was a lot, and it was tough love, but I hope it helps. My honey and I still struggle with our tone.

But again Punishment is disrespectful.
If I’m late to work my consequences would be I lose pay or maybe lose my job. Not you taking my car or tablet. There would be smoke in the city

Natural/ Logical Consequences or finding solutions are how you teach lessons.

Hi! I’m Tash, Im an Autistic Mom to two Autistic girls and I’m a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator. I host virtual courses and workshops that help introduce and teach parents, specifically Black and Neurodiverse parents, positive discipline. https://supernovamomma.com/positive-discipline-workshop/

I also offer One-on-One Parent consultation for Positive Discipline, New Parents, and Parents or Villagers of Autistic Children https://supernovamomma.com/one-on-one-coaching/

Last, I am the creator of “The Cool Calming Corner”, a Time-In printable poster set that features Black and/or multicultural children of different shades and hair styles, & teaches them emotional intelligence and coping strategies through a love of hip hop https://supernovamomma.com/the-cool-calming-corner/