Not sure this story is real, and I'm not a fan of the online thing where you can't talk about what happens in a film that came out five years ago lest you get yelled at, but what I *do* want to talk about is the absolute grab bag of social pathologies involved here. https://twitter.com/AITA_reddit/status/1391815898982494211

Part the First: You do not have to be friends with your co-workers. You do not have to invite them to things. You only have to get along with them to the extent you are able to work together. If too much of your social life revolves around work, what happens if you change jobs?

Part the Second: No one is obligated to invite/hang out with someone they don't like, for whatever reason. You never owe anyone an invitation to anything, up to and including not inviting your own parents to your wedding if they've been shitty to you.

Part the Third: Almost everyone can learn modify their behavior when told that their behavior is harmful or annoying to others. Sometimes the answer is just to talk less, and that's okay. It takes more work for some people and some behaviors, but it can be done. However...

Part the Third Point Five: ...if a person has a condition that makes them completely unable to avoid acting in ways that are harmful or disruptive, you are under no obligation to invite them to a social gathering. Even in employment the standard is *reasonable* accommodation.

Part the Fourth: If a person engages in constant boundary-pushing even after being told it's upsetting, that person is likely either abusive or at the very least unable to process other people's boundaries. Either way it's a red flag and probably a good reason to exclude them.

Part the Fifth: Purposefully spoiling things is a very common form of trolling online and it is absolutely a power play, like catcalling. The goal is not to engage the other person, but to make them feel uncomfortable, proving you have power over them. It's inherently toxic.

Part the Fifth Point Five: Not everyone minds spoilers, though. If you absolutely *must* talk about some plot detail of a new movie/show/game/whatever, you can simply ask, "do you mind spoilers?" And if they say, "no", you can then have the conversation you wanted to have.

Part the Fifth Point Seven Five: In general, asking someone if they want a particular interaction is a great way to maintain consent:
- "do you mind spoilers?"
- "are you looking for advice or just venting?"
- "wanna make out?"

Part the Sixth:

You are not responsible for anyone else's fun.

(That's the whole tweet.)

I think that's everything, but I'll circle back around to this thread if I can come up with anything else.

~fin~