The Mitchells vs the Machines spoiler talk:
The animation is spectacular, and the script made me laugh so many times <3
But the idea that the dad and the daughter were both equally to blame for their distance and needed to meet in the middle felt off by whole orders of magnitude

I found myself physically itchy at points, wanting to reach into the TV and tell her, a lot of these things he's saying and doing? THEY AREN'T OKAY"

If you show zero interest in your kid's creativity, if you squash her work and her esteem, if you made a decision to give something up and then regretted it and took it out on the family in all these little ways, if you don't respect her life or her autonomy... fuck you.

The implication is that if one of the most important adults in your life makes you feel small, and useless, and tells you you're going to fail because of their unresolved shit, you have to extend endless sympathy because they were trying.

You don't. You can have empathy for their pain. But they (and your other parent and sibling) do not get to expect infinite forgiveness, just because it makes their lives easier.

I'm so angry about this because this specific power dynamic fucks so many of us up, and you're showing it to kids as the wholesome ending.

Anyway, thanks for listening. That's been weighing on my mind since I watched it yesterday.