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Judging by the mom groups I’m in, either moms need to significantly lower their expectations of Mother’s Day (unlikely), or their partners need a lesson in not disappointing the mothers in their lives (much more likely).
I get that some people just aren’t good at gifts and special days. That’s okay. Here’s some simple stuff that will work to make a mom feel special even if she says “it’s not a big deal.”
Save this and you can do this all for the next special day. Or randomly.
Save this and you can do this all for the next special day. Or randomly.
A heartfelt card from you- Dollar Tree sells cards. Buy a dozen of them and put them in your nightstand so you always have one when you forget.
A card from the kid(s)- you don’t have to get out the paint and glitter. Give them a marker and let them color a card
A card from the kid(s)- you don’t have to get out the paint and glitter. Give them a marker and let them color a card
Flowers- this is a toss up, but most people like flowers whether they are potted or a bouquet. They make us feel special.
Post on social media- find a photo of your partner being a badass. This might require you to take more pics of them parenting (which is also a gift)
Post on social media- find a photo of your partner being a badass. This might require you to take more pics of them parenting (which is also a gift)
Reduce stress and mental load- this is the biggest complaint I heard yesterday. Moms who still did the dishes, cooked all the meals, transported the kids, held the mental load.
If you’re not used to taking this on, get mom a hotel room for the night and tell her not to call.
If you’re not used to taking this on, get mom a hotel room for the night and tell her not to call.
Also, if there are other moms who need to be cared for on Mother’s Day (your mom, mother in law, step mom, ex, etc), make sure your partner is not the one taking on that burden.
Finally- say “happy Mother’s Day.” Seriously. The number of moms who didn’t even hear those words spoken aloud yesterday was devastating. “Just hearing ‘happy mother’s day’ would have been nice...”
That’s my two cents. From someone who doesn’t celebrate the day but still felt very cared-for by my partner. It doesn’t have to be extravagant to feel special.
Moms, feel free to ask your sister to send this thread to your partner 
I’m also happy to do this on your behalf. And answer any questions partners might have about gifts or other holiday things. Moms lamenting holidays is so heartbreaking to me and I see it all the time.
I’m also happy to do this on your behalf. And answer any questions partners might have about gifts or other holiday things. Moms lamenting holidays is so heartbreaking to me and I see it all the time.
