Ableism in a single image. A lot of Autistic and ADHD people have relational minds, the way they interpret your pain is to relate it to show they understand. The empathy deficit is on you not understanding this and ascribing motive where there isn't one. https://twitter.com/Rhanty/status/1389143186556301313

"Stop trying to make it about you" - them when you are absolutely not trying to make it about you lol.

Not only that a lot of us tend not to use platitudes, so if we can't relate we will say things that might appear cold but it's because we acknowledge we cannot know the experience of things without having them ourselves.

"That sounds really hard" is an example for me.

Add in flat tone and you have a perfect example for the person you've been trying your hardest to empathise with stabbing you in the back with someone else and saying you don't care.

People who think they can walk a mile in other peoples shoes in most cases really can't and they say things that PITY the other person. That's not sympathising, that's judging.

"You poor thing" "Cheer up" "X has it worse"
Linguistically that's a statement that shows no empathy and instead contempt.
Also if my trauma is worse it's not a competition... Empathy isn't about one upping people.

The egocentrism of thinking that people who do this are trying to take something away from you I think is a largely Western construct. Teaching people that people who talk about themselves in these situations are self-involved shows a complete misunderstanding of empathy.

Someone had already made this thread it seems. I didn’t want to ever copy but it certainly looks like it. I guess a few have had this reaction. I’m sincerely sorry but I’d never seen this take before. https://twitter.com/dearnonnatives/status/1391366592802398212?s=20