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Hot take: When we talk about "people" in general wanting or not wanting to have kids, it obscures the fact that half of the people involved - future dads - fully expected for most of history to reap all the possible rewards and do almost none of the work https://twitter.com/iridienne/status/1391431373362122753">https://twitter.com/iridienne...
Admittedly, it was also different in those days because there WERE direct economic rewards, not just personal and social ones - you could straight up make your kids work for you and most people did, rather than just hoping vaguely for them to support you when you got old
But even leaving that aside
Perhaps the lower birthrate is because in our society to an increasing extent the people making the decision are the ones who will bear the costs of it, and the reluctance just reflects what the true cost has always been
Perhaps the lower birthrate is because in our society to an increasing extent the people making the decision are the ones who will bear the costs of it, and the reluctance just reflects what the true cost has always been
(This obviously is the most ice cold of ancient takes and yet it seems to need frequent repeating)
Anyway I& #39;m not even saying this to talk shit about those feckless millennial men - I& #39;m one of them after all
I would argue "I don& #39;t want to do all the work associated with parenting, therefore I don& #39;t want a kid" IS the mature, grownup decision to make
I would argue "I don& #39;t want to do all the work associated with parenting, therefore I don& #39;t want a kid" IS the mature, grownup decision to make
"I don& #39;t want to do all the work associated with parenting, but that& #39;s okay, my wife can do it" makes you an asshole, and it& #39;s also clearly the attitude the vast majority of dads in our society used to have
