i’ve been growing more and more comfortable with the idea that i might not be a person who raises a child. i’ve been ambivalent about that idea for a while, but lately i’ve started to celebrate the possibility of a childless future for myself and that that will be special for me

in its own way. i intend to continue to build my life, and foster community and family, in the way that is most right for me. i’m useful and important even if i keep my seed to myself!! i’m also not like ruling out kids what a weird thing that would be to tweet!

it’s just that i’ve been thinking a lot about the fact that there are so many milestones in a life that we tend to take for granted. you graduate, you marry, you have a kid, etc...if you don’t you’re deficient and if you do then great you’re just NOT deficient

one of the problems with a heteronormative and patriarchal society is not just that it strives to erase other types of life-building, but that it flattens and, well, normalizes the beauty of the type of life-building that it centers.

like, the more life i live, the clearer it is that so few things about building a full and good life are given. they aren’t automatic. they are built with love and commitment and intention.

i’ve seen SO MANY friends become parents in the past couple of years and each one of them are going to raise such wonderful people that i get chills thinking about it! the future! the world! good shit!

this is rambling! happy day to all the birth mothers, drag mothers, adoptive mothers, community mothers, spiritual mothers. what you’ve given to build life and family and community is powerful and magical and unique!