Once I realized many men swipe right on almost everyone, my investment in apps plummeted. That made me try to be even more selective on who I pick but it made online dating feel like a miserable job with no reward.

And this is a problem researchers have noticed! https://twitter.com/Aristophaenes/status/1391062029411233794

link to PDF of full paper, titled “I Like That It’s My Choice a Couple Different Times”: Gender, Affordances, and User Experience on Bumble Dating https://ijoc.org/index.php/ijoc/article/view/12657

What's funny is they claim women are selective bc they're sure of romantic prospects, but I never have been sure of them. I was selective bc I don't like to waste my time

There's also the problem of looks-based algorithms. Hegemonic standards of beauty are inherently anti Black woman so it feels like another invisible disadvantage I don't want to worry about.