Adults, especially women: If you suspect you have ADHD, go see a doctor. Before I was diagnosed I felt like such a failure, from missing deadlines to not being able to make to-do lists to bring flummoxed by the rules to complex card games my then-BF insisted I play with him.
Not being able to grasp how my brain worked cost me relationships, jobs, and long stretches of happiness. The solution isnât always to get on medication; whatâs more important is to realize that this is how your brain works and it doesnât make you âdefective.â
BEING, not BRING, in that original tweet. But for real: my long-term BF was really into Catan-style card and board games, and even just hearing the rules of play stressed me out and made me want to leave the room and hide. I fact, I did, and it made him angry at me.
âMy brain doesnât work this way and hereâs a doctorâs diagnosis in case you insist on evidence. Itâs not that I donât want to spend time with youâ wouldâve alleviated a lot of tensions.
In case you want to know what being a 30-something with ADHD is like, I just spent an hour watching standup comedy routines from the â50s and reading up on the cultural nuances they were tapping into and whatever Iâll email my boss on Monday