As some of us look to re-enter the dating scene, I want to say something to my bros: I know the stigma of having to make the first move leads to a lot of rejection and I don't think we acknowledge how much that affects our mental health...

I think in recent years, we've had a cultural emphasis on making sure dudes handle rejection well, which we should. No woman is required to date us just for being nice. But I think its gets overlooked that that shit still hurts. For some, their dating life can only be described

as "no" or getting left on read. Even when going into the dating scene with honest intentions, that constant rejection can fuck you up. Dating has changed and its no longer just men who experience this, but I've seen how some dudes have been erroded by this cycle.

Honestly, not much can be said about being rejected, that's a given. But I need bros to look out for each other. Think we often look down on dudes with backwards thinking in relationships, but don't consider how they got there. So much is misused energy and unchecked depression.

I've seen so many stories of those dudes with sexist ideologies getting there because they never had anyone to talk to about their struggles. Instead of having an ear to listen to them, they go to echo chambers that amplifies their anger. Lets try to be more understanding, bros.

You see someone going down the incel rabbit hole? Chances are they are down bad and need a friend, not someone to shame them for their misplaced emotions.

This requires nuance, but hopefully we can all be a little better about it.