The kink community has a reputation for being open-minded* And it& #39;s good to be open to the idea of new experiences.
But you should *never* feel pressured to try something you don& #39;t want to, whether that pressure is from other people or yourself.
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*not everyone agrees with this

I& #39;ve seen people berating others for saying & #39;no& #39; and then saying "you& #39;re not open-minded enough", "you should *always* want to expand your limits" or similar phrases, all to put pressure on people in attempts to override a lack of consent.
This is wrong and a major red flag.

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I& #39;ve seen subs/bottoms/littles/ etc. feel that they are & #39;bad& #39;, & #39;fake& #39; or somehow failing if they aren& #39;t on a quest to continually expand their limits, including doing things that they& #39;re not keen on.

This can be made worse by pressure from dominants, deliberate or otherwise.

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You are ALWAYS allowed to say no.

It is ALWAYS ok to say "that kink/ activity is something you like, and that& #39;s great, *but it& #39;s not for me*"

That is NOT someone being & #39;close-minded& #39;, that is someone knowing their own mind and using their agency, making their own choice.

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To echo many who& #39;ve spoken about consent:
& #39;No& #39; is a complete sentence -you don& #39;t have to justify it or explain your & #39;no& #39;

You have no obligation to expand/push your limits

It& #39;s you that decides your limits, no-one else, & it& #39;s absolutely fine if you never want them to change

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If you want to expand your limits, then that& #39;s great! But the key bit is *you actually wanting to do it*

Expanding limits is NOT the Holy Grail of D/s, BDSM, kink, etc. Yes, it can often be presented as such. But that (like this thread) is just someone& #39;s personal opinion.

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