Single mothers always appreciate the role of a Father. Orphans always appreciate the role of a Father. Divorcees always appreciate the role of a Father. Widows always appreciate the role of a Father

Only Married Mothers and Dual-parented children lack the appreciation of the role of a Father

Men: stop sacrificing. Stoo giving. Create a lack of supply, a vacumm, of the services you provide. When they are ready, the other gender (s) and demographic group will come to the table to renegotiate what is The Family, and the role of Men in the world

But as long as you keep giving, as you believe is your duty, what you keep giving will keep being taken for granted, and you'll keep being asked to give more (and make up for the increasingly less the others bring to the table) till you are broken beyond your capacity to give

'All men talk about is how they can provide' yeah, because 'mothers love and cherish a child, bathe them, clothe them, remember their birthdays, feed them, take them to school, wash their clothes, etc' Yeah, a Nanny will do that for N50k

Heck you'll even find a wet nurse who'll breastfeed your nursing child for 100k or less. Now try employing a 'houseboy' to earn enough to pay the rent. Employ a 'houseboy' to pay the schoolfees, since just financially providing doesn't matter