it would be cool if we could stop pretending girls who don’t have female friends do so on purpose out of a disdain for women & a desire for male approval. y’all will not be friends with us. women have been infinitely more abusive to me than men. the social dynamics are punishing https://twitter.com/xoxogossipgita/status/1390033758536019972

i don’t really want to take part in any harry potter discourse this just fits in with something i’ve been thinking about lately and i find it interesting how the stereotype of the girl who’s “not like other girls” puts the blame on her for thinking she’s better

Does she think she's better? Or is she ostracized because she incites feelings of insecurity in other girls just by existing, can only be friends with guys, & makes that part of her personality because that’s a lot better than “ostracized freak.” maybe that made her a bit icy?

the “cool girl,” “not like other girls” tropes fucked me up so much bc they said to have “male” interests came from internalized misogyny. the fact that girls seemed to hate my guts and seek to destroy me in every group setting despite liking me fine one-on-one was my fault

I didn't have the same experiences & feelings as women, didn’t talk the same way, couldn't figure out what they found gross or weird, couldn't understand how there were so many rules and I managed to break all of them. every time I was different, that was internalized misogyny!

Every way I was different was actually just me wanting to be special, me taking part in patriarchal shunning of femininity. This wasn't some fucking church camp, this was feminist circles in Los Angeles in my early 20s where I was caught in a string of abusive friendships

Everyone said men and women are the same, women can do anything men can do! but there was some fucking difference because I didn't understand a fucking thing about the standards I was supposed to meet and when I failed it was from my lack of morals and feelings of superiority

The fucking cool girl stereotype. Maybe we're just not like other girls and you never let us forget it but chastise us for acknowledging it. Maybe you think we're cool and we don't feel like we're better than you, you feel insecure around us & we don't know why and don't like it

this was also when i learned the term cis and realized people had an internal sense of gender and i didn’t. i talked about it and was told that i had to be cis. i was just being fragile. i didn’t want to transition? obviously i was just a cis woman who wanted to feel special.

“you’re exactly like us, you just do everything wrong and you are bad” is a lovely fucking message to send the Not Like Other Girls as you chase them out with torches and then act like they rejected you. People forget when they use the term witch hunt that witches were innocent

when women won't be friends with you, you have to be friends with guys and that's fun until you find out how many of them just want to have sex with you and never saw you as a person, just like women never saw you as a person, and all that’s your fault somehow

at least when men decide you mean nothing, they just never speak to you again. Women want to make sure nobody speaks to you ever again. It's not enough to be excluded & irrationally hated, you deserve nowhere on earth to exist bc you committed the crime of thinking you’re SPECIAL

It doesn't matter if you think you're special or not & if you try to explain you just don't understand, that's proof you think you're special. You made them feel like you think you're special bc you didn't know or can’t follow the rules. but you know. get some friends, you bitch!