I think we could do with this:

" Har hassi khushi ki hassi nahi hoti" - Shaurya

"Pain pain hota hai, Sir. Koi alag naam koi alag alag pehchan ho sakta hai. Lekin kaam toh ek hi karta hai. Dil dukhane ka." - Anokhi

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"What's past is prologue" - Shakespeare

The past is the introduction to our present life, the first 30+ episodes are an introduction to the present day ShaKhi.
Their past has been full of high and lows, fear, neglect, abuse and trauma.

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In essence, the adult we turn into, is largely shaped by the childhood we had. Since our childhood experiences differs, no 2 adults behave or react to the same situation in the same way.

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When in an urgent emotional crisis, people resort to their coping mechanism and react differently. Some resort to self- defeating mechanism like accepting the suffering and learned helplessness - like Babli.

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Some bottle everything up until something trigger them and they become aggressive and confrontational - Like Shaurya.
And some become evasive, they detach themselves or at least pretend to detach- Anokhi.

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Her reaction due to something that goes much deeper than what is visible to the eyes- just like Shaurya questioning Anokhi's character was more about himself projecting his insecurities, Anokhi stonewalling him is a projection of her own fears.
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She knows Shaurya loves her. She fears confronting him, because she fears that he'd accept that he has misogynistic views.  She fears that a confrontation would destroy the already cracked idol that she had built in her heart.

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She is vulnerable and has no one to talk to. Babli is family and can't give a neutral perspective and so, she is unable to open up emotionally by herself for fear that it could pave the way for additional pain.

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That's why she went back to her "default setting"-her childhood - because no matter how abusive it was, she has learnt to be immune to it and since this pattern worked once, she thinks it will work this time as well.

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My heart clenched when Babli and Anokhi described their childhood as "happy".
They've literally numbed a part of themselves - which has allowed them to be emotionally detached (is a known result of neglect and abuse) and it is a means of survival.

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Anokhi has emotionally numbed herself. (Emotional numbing=blocking feelings, emotions in view of some perceived threat). Her being evasive, indifferent, non-caring is part and parcel of her way to cope.

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She was looking at Shaurya as a potential husband-we often we use our past to predict our future. She's been surrounded by women who's had their life ruined by man, which is why she is running away at the first sign that Shaurya may cut off her wings.
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It's more about herself, her past, than it is about him.
It's not about Shaurya having to prove his love over and over again, it's about reassuring her of his love. It may be taxing for Shaurya because he has his own baggage, but it is how it is.
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They do not have power over their past, but they have over their present and so they'd grow out of it. It's only the beginning. Just like we gave Shaurya time after the library scene, we need to give her time to come to terms with her past.

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Its a bit heart-breaking that some people believe that Anokhi is "enjoying" while Shaurya is in so much pain. Trust me, it's just a facade. Plus, she doesn't even know he is still missing.

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Anokhi's emotional reactions are pretty toned, so, we may not see her shedding a pool of tears. But, her remembering him thru'out her day is clear that she yearns for him. She is longing for the "what could I beens", she's longing to be longed for.
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Empathising with Anokhi does not mean I love Shaurya any less or that I don't understand his pajn. Both of them have a piece of my heart and I pain for these wounded souls. Time may not have healed their wounds, but this relationship might just.

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What both of them have to learn is that their past may affect their present, but it should not define it.

Chalo, im done
Sorry for this very long post and thank you if you managed to reach to this point.

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