Being the eldest child comes with its own set of struggles. Many eldest siblings feel like they have to be on ‘top form’ to support everyone else, so their issues often take a back seat. Then there’s feeling under appreciated because when they go above and beyond it’s ‘expected’.

I think if you’re the eldest and can relate, it’s important that you set boundaries. Also, consider the impact of your contributions on your wellbeing and also consider whether anybody has actually asked you to go above and beyond for them...

Sometimes eldest children will give 110% because they have a personal sense of ‘duty’ but that sense of duty can have them feeling depleted, resentful or under appreciated. Be aware of your limits and speak up about your frustrations. Your family don’t know what they don’t know.

Sending love to all the eldest siblings out there