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it& #39;s only recently come to my attention that previous allegations against kai/redheadedchinny were not as widely known as I thought. so I thought i& #39;d take you back to 2015. just to preface that this isn& #39;t my story and so no details will be shared
it& #39;s only recently come to my attention that previous allegations against kai/redheadedchinny were not as widely known as I thought. so I thought i& #39;d take you back to 2015. just to preface that this isn& #39;t my story and so no details will be shared
my feelings and knowledge on what happened are my own and i& #39;m not going to address them in this way because again this isn& #39;t my story to tell
In 2016 (not 15 lol) I received the following messages from a good friend of mine in the cosplay community stating that Kai had allegedly tried to sexual assault another friend of his.
note: my friend asked me if Kai had messaged me because soon after the allegations he had apparently messaged several people in the community denying everything
He later revealed her name to me and it turned out to be a girl that I knew of, although hadn’t ever met or spoken to at that point (cropped to protect this girl’s name)
Note how my friend immediately asked me whether he was flirting with me 
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Soon after, I removed Kai from my social media accounts and he messaged me saying that his account was clearly glitching because it appeared to be deleting his friends (lol) also how he was “notified” that we were no longer friends - please.
This was all dealt with with the police. I’m not going to comment any further on these allegations but I’m hoping that those who were also involved will one day be able to speak out about this without fear of not being believed.
this soon all became extremely messy. kai began to tell people in the community that these allegations were not true and everything was swept under the carpet for several reasons. my point is: lots of people with very big platforms knew about this, I knew about this.
when Katie recently shared her story, we began to reconnect. when she was dating kai, I was convinced that she was crazy and toxic because that is what kai had told the people in my friendship circles about her. I had never even spoken to her but in my head, she was clingy etc
we& #39;ve now listened to Katie& #39;s story and after talking with her, I apologised profusely for not having connected the dots between her situation and the previous allegations against kai. of course I was was following the people close to me who had been manipulated by kai.
Katie told me that the reason why she was so “strange” around me was because Kai had told her that he knew that I had believed the allegations about the girl mentioned previously in this thread. This is an example of how manipulative he has been and continues to be.
in the years that followed this, rumours would come and go. the girl mentioned in this thread sadly passed away. I remember asking friends at various intervals whether this was all true. I couldn& #39;t work out why he was so popular, had this huge platform, and why all of my friends
were still friends with him despite knowing this information. I now realise completely that they were also victims of his manipulation.
This was sent to me yesterday but this is what the messages were like. How do you “prove” that you didn’t try to sexually assault someone?? And the fact that she stopped talking about it https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😖" title="Verblüfftes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Verblüfftes Gesicht"> It was all forgotten about and everyone believed that she had lied bc of his manipulation.
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this carried on over the years until I reached a point where I just didn& #39;t see how the allegations were true - how could all of my friends be saying that this girl had lied otherwise. In 2019, kai came back into my life after messaging me on social media
being a fucking idiot, I was excited by his flirtiness, his compliments, his popularity. I figured that this stuff wasn& #39;t true. I also figured that he didn& #39;t realise who I was, given that the last message I sent him (before removing him on fb) told him exactly what I thought
so we got friendly. and i& #39;m appalled at my own behaviour and I think it& #39;s important to hold myself accountable for this. While I and many others were clearly manipulated, I knew deep down that this was fucked up beyond belief. I was completely blinded
and I& #39;m devastated that this girl passed away with so many of her friends turned against her. she was so vulnerable and unwell, and kai did this despite knowing all of that. I even heard that he had coerced her to come out and "admit that she had lied about it".
with Katie& #39;s story, and the multiple stories of other women who have messaged us about him and his predatory behaviour, how he would say "you can& #39;t tell anyone about this", I am completely disgusted and I sincerely regret the part that I have played in this
I only met him in person once - despite the numerous DMs, Facebook and instagram messages, constantly pressuring me to go to comic con with him, that I& #39;d have to act quick because tickets were selling out,
but he was extremely charismatic and seemed extremely genuine, and again this is all manipulation. We were drinking that night and he was with his [current] girlfriend at the time and she wasn& #39;t there
he spent the whole night acting drunker than he was, constantly asking me to take photos with him because "I looked like Jenna/Clara", I remember sitting on his lap at one point and feeling uncomfortable - because I knew he had a girlfriend - had I known about this -
- and realised what was going on - I would obviously have felt uncomfortable for other reasons. I also remember holding his hand at one point (this is on video) and laughing along until I realised that people were filming it - again I remembered he had a girlfriend - and in the
video you can see me try to pull my hand away but he doesn& #39;t let me go. again - I was only uncomfortable in this situation because I was thinking about his girlfriend, not because the action in itself was wrong
the point I want to make is that we need to hold our friends (and at times, ourselves) accountable. we were all manipulated by him and so I know that we can& #39;t blame ourselves but had we given more weight to the initial allegations, we might have been able to spot what then
happened with the girls that followed her. my heart BREAKS when I think of the girl that this thread is about. she died thinking so many people were against her. she died thinking they didn& #39;t believe her.
NO. MORE. call out your fucking friends when you KNOW they& #39;ve done wrong. don& #39;t just tweet performative shit like & #39;listen to women!!!& #39; and then proceed to try and DISCREDIT them when it& #39;s someone close to you because "they couldn& #39;t possibly do that".
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