its #BPDAwarenessMonth so heres a thread of things you should NOT do, as theyre ableist to pwBPD

if u dont have BPD, read and retweet or you owe me 50 dollars

- use the yandere trope without bpd. it is just an exaggeration of our symptoms and its harmful to us, not to mention that it FUCKING HURTS when i see a bunch of neurotypicals romanticize my disorder

- don't call us irl yanderes cus i know someone will

- using "borderline" to refer to abuse / abusers . seriously just don't, there are much better words. (narcissist is not one of them.)

- immediately assuming that people with bpd are abusive or saying we have abusive tendencies this one should be obvious

- calling our love for our FP "obsessive" "creepy" "excessive" or assuming itd dangerous

- getting mad that we see in black and white and have unstable views on people and relationships... these are legitimate symptoms so dont tell us to make up our mind or something, we can go from h8ing someone to adoring them

- saying you wish you had bpd what the fuck
ive legitimately seen people say this and go "oh bpd love is so cute n cozy!! " i wanted to go apeshit

- dont tell us that we're too annoying or clingy

- dont tell us we're sensitive or overreacting

- dont fucking tell us were going to be abandoned and that our relationships wont last ESPECIALLY if its with a FP

- if ur gonna make a character with bpd dont fall into stereotypes and dont portray us as criminals, evil people or murderers. seeing bpd rep would be awesome but it has to be done right

- dont call people or characters that exhibit bpd traits "toxic", "crazy" or "yandere" or anything like that ffs.

- if we go through a BPD episode please try to calmly defuse it and dont feed into it with hatred as that can cause a lot of harm to us
its different for every person though to be honest, so always ask what to do so youre prepared

- since psychosis can be a symptom of bpd: dont reality check us without permission. dont send us paranoia inducing bs.

- belittling our emotions in any way

- telling us "well if its so harf then you should get off the internet n go find help" whilr that would be good advice in theory, its a dick move to dictate where we can and can't live our fuckin lives, and not to mention that its likely that we can't . get help

bpd-havers feel free to add more, try to keep it strictly bpd related though.

- I ALMOST FORGOT THIS DON'T FUCKING TRIGGER WARNING BPD

- my friend is priv so i can't qrt to add this but DONT INFANTILIZE US! especially during a break down, good lord. don't use *that* voice on us

- "everyone has a FP, it's like having a best friend, or your partner!" no, you fucking idiot
pwBPD can experience intense attachment to a single person, and that person can unintentionally control everything about us. read here https://www.borderlinetalksback.com/post/what-is-a-favourite-person