Today I am very much thinking about how WWX probably has to learn, at a point in their relationship, to mind his flippant wants for things. What I mean is, he’s gone a long time putting the needs of others before his own, and he should definitely be freely allowed to want things.

And LWJ is very good at supporting that and making sure WWX feels comfortable expressing his own needs. A little too good! WWX will make an offhand comment about a comb in the market, and find it in his spirit pouch.

If he mentions he has a craving for watermelon, too early in the season in Gusu, there is suddenly a big, juicy one from Yunmeng on their table. And all of this is very sweet, but WWX didn’t NEED a new comb or to not wait for watermelon.

So he starts to be a little bit more... hmm direct? Or aware. It is nice to be spoiled, but it’s also nice to not send his husband into a flurry of activity, based on an offhand comment WWX won’t even remember until he’s presented with the object of his musings.

And it’d be good for LWJ, to learn he doesn’t have to be the sole all encompassing source of WWX’s joy. That WWX can want things and get them himself. For him to be able to watch WWX grow comfortable enough to understand he can put himself first without needing LWJ to enforce it.

Just musings. Sponsored by packing my belongings and realizing how many of them have been thoughtful gifts. We’re in our emotions about love today!