im rly tired of reddit dudes going ”uwu men are so depressed and lonely and starved of affection. young attractive women this is YOUR responsibility”

”mens friendships are less emotionally intimate so we need women to step up” ”maybe just hug your fellow male friends and compliment them more” ”but thats gay :(”

for the record i absolutely do believe that men nowadays are starved of affection and emotional intimacy, as that is the cog-in-the-machine alienation caused by capitalism, but acting like women are on the hook for every mans emotional wellbeing is just Grossly Misogynistic

especially the way men tend to conflate emotional intimacy with romantic/sexual relationships ends up ruining it as women just see that as a part of normal friendships, and then dudes will be like ”ugh friendzoned” and women like ”ugh girlfriendzoned”

i have a knack for befriending lonely male nerds so i have A lot of experience w this. i used to straight up be dysphoric abt it cause i just wanted to be treated as a friend instead of ”potential gf”

there has to be an effort from the inside of male friend groups to establish the acceptance of vulnerability and closeness. so many young men are so afraid of stepping out of line of the social rules that have been established in their friendships but the effect can be magical.

i still think back on a situation i saw in 7th grade. the boys of the class were messing around and being like Gays are gross eww, when one of them piped up and said ”actually, being gay is totally fine” and there was a silence and its like they all suddenly went, yeah ok true

sorry for the cisnormativity in this thread, i simply did not have the space to go ”men and ppl who are socialized as men according to western gender roles and homophobic masculinity” or whatever the fuck every single time. like... trying to be inclusive in tweets fucking sucks