unpack how you view mothers before you have kids. unpack the expectations. unpack the idea that motherhood is ones identity. unpack the good mom/bad mom. unpack the idea that mothers are solely responsible for an entire humans needs. unpack the judgments. all of them.
everyone has these judgments and “you should” expectations for mothers. when you have all these “shoulds” in your head prior to having kids? guilt, anxiety & depression will hit you like a ton of bricks on your parenthood journey. watch your judgments.
a lot of people are mad at their mothers for not being everything they needed but that’s where we get confused. one person is not meant to be everything or meet all the needs of one person. you see that when you become a parent.
but then let yourself take a break and you’ll feel guilty because the world says it’s irresponsible for mothers to take a break and be a human. the minute your child won’t eat veggies, or is watching TV for too long.. is crying in a store.. you’ll feel guilty.
one person is not meant to fill the needs of another person. that includes the mother/child relation. yet all the blame is shifted to the mother. all the judgment. when in reality it takes a village $ it’s not just “my mom failed me.” it’s the community failed your mother & you.
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