Im also just never gonna understand people who consider cheating to inherently be a great evil and not just a messy thing people do that hurts others

I’m sorry you’ve been cheated on and it traumatized you but acting like there is only one type of situation where infidelity can occur in and that it is inherently violent or “predatory” is narcissistic, short-sighted, and childish.

Also jumping to “you could pass STDs from kissing or fucking someone else” as the reason its abusive honestly icks me out. Like while yeah that’s an unsafe thing that can put others at risk, i find posturing possibility of unknowing transmission as inherently abusive to be squick

so many replies are like "if it hurts people, it's evil" ....i fink conflict is not abuse, innit love?